I wish there were more on this topic for Ms Rosenberg...it just sparked my interest and left me thinking what does she mean by 'romantic hunger'? what should a person be looking for in those 'first 15 minutes'?

When I work with clients in my coaching practice, I find that their romantic fantasies sometimes get in the way of seeing people realistically in the early stages of dating. So our desire or "hunger" to meet someone special can cloud our good judgment.

Thanks for the tip - I have a first date in about 45 minutes; I'll pay attention to the first 15 minutes and share what I discovered with a friend.

Jillian

I agree with Team PJ's Patty - where's the beef?

Helena Rosenberg plants the fear of WDD [weapons of date destruction] - Code Orange - first date warning! But needs to specify the real 'danger signs' that she dramatically alludes to - obviously from the amount of 'views' there is high interest in the topic, I kind of know what the 'warning signals' are from being on scores of dates in this lifetime, and being a 'professional listener' [journalist] - learning to read between the lines is what I do...but not everybody does.

I actually JUST learned to ask men the crucial, critical, seemingly innocent question 'what are you looking for?' Online, or in the flesh, it's rad and essential. Because guys will tell you.

Oh no, you may NOT get the answer you're hoping for, but it can save you a lot of misled fantasies and hurt or misdirected feelings down the road about a romantic future if the guy says 'I just want to be friends.' It can also spark your heart [and your diet] if they say 'I'd like to see more of you, it feels like a good fit.' Ask this early on, and you can breathe easier, walk away or keep holding your stomach in.

Guys - weigh in here, am I right? And what are YOUR 'danger signs' on a first date?

I think what she means beware of first attraction. Because looks can be deceiving. We meet a guy/girl that we like think is great. But we are not looking at the fine details that will make our life miserable in the future. Unfortunately I made that mistake! If you look at the person carefully in a week you will see the flaws. If you can live with them great! If you can not then go on with life find another and it will save you lots of pain.