The Jam: Ep. 53: Criticizing Girlfriend

We've all been there: someone we know is super-critical of everything we do. Whether they're grandparents, siblings, friends, or even parents it's annoying. But what do you do if your significant other is the one criticizing everything you do? That's exactly the problem PeopleJam member gailstone has. But what's host Bridget McManus' advice going to be, and more importantly, do you agree?

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Anonymous's picture

Love the dance club. I want to come party too. TGIF


Anonymous's picture

LOL man that was some bad advice...


BRIGEMCMANUSFAN's picture

LOL Bridget that was great and so funny. You are so crazy and funny. Love the dancing because it's friday. Cute.


madewell's picture

I agree that possibly she does not realize that she is a nag and writing it down may be the only way theat she will notice and once you are aware that she is aware of it and things still don't change give her an ultimatum their is nothing like going through life unhappy. Just my 2 cents


cocokid's picture

That was the funniest thing I've seen today! I agree. You can't tell a woman every time she criticizes you... bad idea! I think you should just be honest and tell them that you feel like you're constantly being criticized and if they don't care then they're just mean. Get rid of em!


max223's picture

I find myself watching your videos less for the advice, and more for the hilarious non-sequitors...don't get me wrong, the advice sounds good and all, but you can be talking about kicking your girlfriend to the curb one minute and that somehow leads to dancing?? That's just awesome


TehVixen's picture

After watching this video, it's sad to think that this reminds me of myself. I'm such a nagger. :( I'm surprised my husband hasn't kicked me to the curb yet. You're right, I have no idea how annoying I can. Thanks to this video, lol, I'm gonna start working on it today. Thanks for the advice!


Mr. Knowitall's picture

Maybe you should just recommend this video to the hypercritical friend! I'm probably the person, the critic, that doesn't realize he's doing it. But pointing out that they're not doing it on purpose is a lot more helpful than any advice that follows.


Anonymous's picture

this was AWESOME! keep them coming bridget.


Anonymous's picture

Bridget! You look fabulous! And you have great moves. In terms of nagging girlfriend... I know from experience that it can definitely be damaging to a relationship. Now, I try to say positive things more than negative things. I also try to listen to him when he tells me that I'm nagging. I think communication is the key... telling each other how they feel is going to help the situation.


euroni's picture

I love your dance moves and the background music. I know that nagging sometimes seem like it's not a big deal, but little things can really affect a relationship. However, on the other hand, positive things can affect the relationship too. I think a good relationship always have a balance.


blizardbabe's picture

I don't think that she should wait a week before she confronts her nag of girlfriend.. it is always better to tell her at that moment that she is being critical... and that she feels hurt... waiting will just cause resentment in the end


bluorchid's picture

After watching this video, I realize this is my husband of twenty-five years. Treating them the same way to show how it feels, is absolutely no solution! I tried this for twenty-five years and it does not work. Some people just think they are superior and that is all there is to it. Maybe attitude anonymous would help.


Anonymous's picture

This video was great so funny so random so crazy so BRIDGETT! loved it see you Monday. Can Monday be another dance party?


Anonymous's picture

Loved it. Now I'll dance off towards Brunch.


Anonymous's picture

Great episode keep'em coming!


Anonymous's picture

I loved the random dance off. When my gf was nagging me I actually when to her best friend and had her intervene. Her friend scoped out her point of view and reported back to me so I knew where she was coming from without having to bring it up. My gf was just insecure that I wasn't going to stay with her so she was nagging me to push me away. I ended up just showering my gf with love so she knew I wasnt going anywhere and she stopped nagging me. Strange but it actually worked. great job Briget keep dancing.


Anonymous's picture

Gosh Bridget, you so random and wonderful :)
You should wear your hair curly more often too...


blueeyes21's picture

I think this is great advice. Its really important to talk to your significant other if they are doing something thats bothering and hurting you.


ba.antkowiak's picture

sorry bridget, a little to random for me! It was hard to tell what was going on with all the extra stuff popping in.


shaddad81's picture

Well, communicating your feelings is always the best policy, then if they jump down your throat, kick em to the curb! *continues Friday dance*


jdotagain's picture

I don't know if this one will work, it depends on who has the power!


Anonymous's picture

I loved the random dance off. Thanks for the advice .


shanr's picture

I don't think the idea of keeping a journal of all the times she's critical and then showing it to her is going to help. I think the best way to go about it would be to sit down with her in private, when no one else is around, and talk to her about it gently. No yelling, no screaming, no accusing. Just talk it out. If she's genuinely a good person with good intentions, she'll talk it out with you. She may get a little defensive, but she'll show a willingness and desire to change. If not, I agree - kick her to the curb!


heathcole's picture

My partner and I have this issue. She nags and I poke fun at her on things that she is sensitive about because I think its funny. It almost always causes a fight, so I don't know why either of us do it.


Mr. Motivated's picture

Bitches be crazy! I also do not recommend recording everything - keeping score and then showing that to your partner has only one real result. I agree that if you can't deal with it than it's most likely time to go. Maybe just explain how it makes you feel while it is happening...


Tetramobile's picture

I don't think I'm like that. Well, maybe I am, lol. Bitches be crazy! If my guy ever showed me a crazy list he made, I'd beat him with it, lol.


smojica's picture

Nagging and poking fun just sucks. Way to go Bridget!


singswithlove's picture

I thought this was funny. I agree with Bridget also..about making that list..if you do..do it for yourself, I fear if you show your partner they will kill you. (not really). It's a touchy subject that lends hours to discussion. I mean..who wants to live with a nag?


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