The Jam: Ep. 30: Small-Town Help

In this Q&A episode, host Bridget McManus gives great advice to PeopleJam member Squirt44, who is struggling with being a lesbian in a small town. Not only do Bridget's tips help those who are in small towns, but it also helps anyone who is struggling with coming out and ways they can deal with it.

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Anonymous's picture

Bridge you rock and all i have to say is holy sht!!!!!!!! nice tongue. ;)


Anonymous's picture

oh bridge, i thought you'd be smoother than that...but it was funny (a wee bit cringe-worthy, but still funny) ;D


Anonymous's picture

haha, only you Bridget....watching these little shows everyday makes me happy. thank you for that.


Anonymous's picture

I like girls.


Anonymous's picture

i like girls too and i LOVE bridget!


Anonymous's picture

lol that ending was slightly disturbing.


Anonymous's picture

"She got to be herself
So she can free herself
Singing ..."


Anonymous's picture

hahahaha (:
my sister and I are also gay! it's awesome
i heart Bridget


pdkamath's picture

Hi friends, the encouragement in the form of advice to the gay girl is some thing every body should admire and I am really proud of Bridget for expressing her views so boldly thus answering the questions of that girl.Hey Bridget you are the friend in need.


Jiggenhousse's picture

haha this video is hard to watch for the feint of heart but very funny!


euroni's picture

Haha! "Bridget's Not So Professional Advice" is pretty humble. That was a great advice! Internet is a great place to meet anyone you are looking for! I'm speaking from personal experience. I have to say that you have a great content as well as very very entertaining way to say it. I Love the hand puppet, by the way. =)


kel12347's picture

The advice of how to get in contact with other gay people is good. I'm glad Bridget gave actual examples of good websites and resources. The whole hand thing was sick, but hilarious.


adamnsarahsmall's picture

The video was fairly good. The websites and other resources shared were probably just what the questioner needed. I am from a small town and my experience is much different from what you speak of. I am NOT gay but have several gay friends and small towns are more acceptable. The only reason people in large cities think being gay is more accepted is because really in all honesty in a large city, you are mainly just a number outside your circle of friends and family but in small towns, everyone knows you personally. None of my friends had problems until moving to large cities. Yes, it is more accepted and meeting other gay friends may be better but overall my friends have been happier in the small cities and towns and date outside the areas they live in because that is where the gay communities are that give them options for dating. Good video except the end was really uncalled for and probably not helpful at all for Squirt.


ChalybsLevitas's picture

Hah! That last part wasn't useful at all! XD
It was funny, though.

Some good advice hidden behind the funny, there. If you aren't happy where you are, you should go somewhere else. Though people talk about how dangerous the internet is, it is pretty safe, for the most part. If anyone follows this advice, just be careful, okay?


cj3905's picture

It's cool that Bridget is covering this. So awesome. I'm straight and live in LA, and two of my best friends are a married lesbian couple. I've been going with them over the past couple of weeks to protest the passing of Prop 8 here in California. A good idea would be to get involved with any of the national protests going on all around the country right now. There were 80 cities involved this past Saturday, even if it means driving to the nearest city. I'm not sure what the site is that organizes all the protests, but I'll try and find out.


mannaxd's picture

I've got several friends who are gay and they would have loved to see this show before they "came out". It's great to know that there is support for them if they need it. I will be sending this to them, just to let them know they aren't alone.


monogloop's picture

I completely agree with this vlog. Ok, maybe not that last part, but with everything else. :)

My gay friend lives in a small town in Ohio - he can't leave because his parents (they're pretty old) live there and need him there. He's met a lot of great friends and even an occasional boyfriend via online.


heathcole's picture

Awesome! So great to see a proud lesbian out there helping others! Good advice and good mix of humor and seriousness!


jexa84's picture

This made me smile. And it really was great advice.


ninedosus's picture

That is really great advice. I know it can be difficult for anyone in a small town to find love, but in a small town it's even tougher.


cloud5975's picture

While I myself am not gay, I support gay rights and admire those brave enough to announce their sexuality to the public, especially in today's close-minded society. More power to you, and the entire gay community, Bridget!


missfunkadilly's picture

Good advice, the internet is a pretty good place to find people. Of course, you have to be careful. I'm not gay, but I found my boyfriend whom I now live with online, well he found me, but anyway, the internet is a good option for sure.


zoesmomknits's picture

the internet is a great way to meet people who are likeminded, as long as you're careful, i think that was pretty great advice. and i thought the ending was pretty funny.


countrypop's picture

Dear Bridgett, The advice you gave quirt was great advice. Especially if there living in a small town they are never going ot get treated with respect. Especially in the small towns as they all favor what each other thinks about even if they dont agree with it they will go along with them.


ysomogyi's picture

Bridget can make anything laughable, even this! It's good advice for anyone, however, gay or straight. Just get out there and try! We all face possible rejection. I come from a small town, and I hate to say it but it's worse here for gays. It's like everybody knows you, your parents, your grandparents, your past "mistakes".... But so what!? Don't dream it, be it! Who cares what people think?


chrisfuccione's picture

I am straight and I am also from a small town. I can see where she is coming from because I know first hand how people talk and how in towns like that you can feel alone and isolated. Going online and a bigger city to find friends was a great idea.


ASHAAN's picture

I have a friend who is a gay. He is scared shit and I am going to forward this blog to him. Thanks B


blueeyes21's picture

LOL I am in love with this host. She is so funny and cute. And I love her advice, those are all great websites she suggested.


ryuhime's picture

That was cute and all but it wasn't too helpful. Maybe you should post those sights for Squirt44.


shaddad81's picture

That's awesome!I had no idea there were that many web communities! I'm so going to send my friend to them, she just came out back in July, so she is still pretty new.


jdotagain's picture

anybody dealing with problem should be able to relate to the video.


misaspeakn's picture

I have a few friends that are gay and I have few people who are questionable. I love gay/lesbian folks, love is everywhere and can be found with anyone and is not a problem in my eyes! I think that I would appreciate the lifestyle of those people who are gay but I can not relate.


VineLikeMine's picture

This is a great heart felt advice. I was really impressed with how Bridget responded to the question, and I totally agree with the points that she was making. I would also like to mention that this is what being a young adult all is about. You are now reasonable for your Livelihood and are able to start preparing for your life that is ahead of you. There are so many great communities online. It's a great place to meet people and makes the world seem to be a much smaller place. Start networking online and you will see opportunities in the horizon really start to open up for you to pursue!


Mr. Motivated's picture

Pretty good advice - I'd recommend this to any young lesbians I know in small towns. Really, I appreciate Bridget addressing things that others may not. And making out with her hand was pretty funny!


kbrown174's picture

This was so funny! I definitely would recommend it to anyone. I laughed so much when she started with, " I like girls". Hahaha. I wasn't expecting that. She is right though about living in the small town and how hard it is to find someone who is gay in a small town. Online communities are definitely the way to go in those towns.


smojica's picture

Nice take on small town life for gays and lesbians. I always thought big cities would be for everyone, but maybe not?


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