After graduating from the University of Florida with an undergraduate degree in English and Education, Chandra received her Masters degree in Social Work from Barry University, with intensive training and experience in traditional psychotherapy and counseling. Along the way, she developed top notch business experience, spending years in upper management with an HMO, consulting for General Motor's healthcare division, and developing two start-up companies. Today, she has a private practice in Tampa, FL, where (with her Buddha cat Sammy) she coaches clients all over the world in the areas of business and relationships. She has traveled the world, and also spent ten years in India, studying and meditating with a great spiritual master.
From April 2002 through November 2006, Ms. Alexander had a regular TV series on WFLA/NBC's DAYTIME called "Reality Check". In September 2005, she was selected by Oprah Magazine as the Life Coach to deliver 12 coaching sessions to the first prize winner of their Toyota Moving Forward essay contest.
Her books and CDs are always about bravery and authenticity. Her first book Reality Works - Let It Happen is for those who want their spirituality straight-up, bite-sized chapters on what it takes to make the journey authentic, and her new book, TRASHtionalizations, (How To Stop Believing Your Own Excuses and Have A Real Relationship) is like having a therapist in your purse - open to any page and you will be snapped back to reality. Ms. Alexander's CDs correct the focus, and point you inward. A Working Relationship with the Mind, CD, gives you the edge in business, teaches you how to meditate, and reveals how having a good relationship with your mind is the foundation of all good relationships. Her 3-disc CD, The Real Deal, How to Be It, How to Get It reminds us that love is an introspective process, and that the relationship you have with yourself is ultimately the one you have with everyone else. And finally, her new CD, Breaking and Healing, When Relationships Don't Work, gives you insight and courage to create relationships that bring you self-esteem and self-respect. You can preview Chandra's books and CDs here: http://coachgirl.com/coachgirl/books.html
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- Sunday, February 15, 2009 - 14:02Are you plagued with a mind that never rests? If you have trouble sleeping at night, difficulty finishing what you’ve started, and trouble making decisions, learn why having a quiet mind brings peace and clarity and is the foundation for a life that works.
- Friday, February 13, 2009 - 00:31Constantly telling your story is an addiction. We can always find someone who agrees with our story - if they don't, we stop calling them! It is not until YOU get really bored with your story that you have a real opportunity to change what doesn't work.
- Sunday, February 8, 2009 - 13:07Are things that happened to you in the past still causing you hurt and pain? If you’re having trouble moving on after a broken relationship, a betrayal, or anything else that has broken your heart, learn why you need to feel, not think, in order to get past the anger and pain.
- Thursday, February 5, 2009 - 15:35Do you keep breaking up and then getting back together? How many times have you done it? Be honest. If you’ve done it more than once, you are most probably addicted to the drama. Ask yourself these important questions: 1. Do you have the same arguments each time you break-up?
- Sunday, February 1, 2009 - 21:26Do you do what you say you are going to do? If you’ve been told by your partner that you can’t be counted on, learn why nothing is more important than your words and actions matching. 1. Do you promise to do something and then just not do it?
- Friday, January 30, 2009 - 04:46For most of our lives, we are concerned primarily with our physical reality. If we can see it, if we can touch it, then it exists for us. We are taught to think, rather than to feel and told that dreaming, for the most part, is a useless pastime. Our world is grounded in the concept of matter and we are rewarded for being practical and logical.
- Sunday, January 25, 2009 - 14:13How many times have we heard, “When one door closes another door opens”? We understand this to mean that two things are happening at once - we have our hand on the door that is closing and at the same moment we are reaching forward to open a new door. As we attempt to corral a piece of the future that is not yet ready to happen, we feel the loss of control.
- Thursday, January 22, 2009 - 15:24What is true is always true. We either believe we are always in the right place at the right time or we do not. We can’t have it both ways. When we change our philosophy to fit the circumstances, we are attempting to make sense out of something that frightens us. As our life continues to twist and turn in unexpected ways, we feel
- Sunday, January 18, 2009 - 14:18The natural state of the body is wellness. When we are sick, we are out of rhythm with the body’s band. This discordant note signals a call to attention, a potent stopping point to re-evaluate who we are and where we are going.
Taking Responsibility for Your Life Means Not Fighting With Reality – If It Happened To You, It Belongs To YouThursday, January 15, 2009 - 21:00It would be nice to know why something happened to us, but can we ever know and does it really matter anyway? Looking for “why” something happened is a trap we create for ourselves. Even if the “why” satisfies us, we have missed the point. It becomes a rationalization, an escape, and a way of not accepting our life at this
- Sunday, January 11, 2009 - 11:53Adrenaline starts pumping and it is our hard-wired signal to retreat.
- Thursday, January 8, 2009 - 19:52Do you have trouble making a commitment and once you've made one, can you keep it? In order to commit, it is important to examine the fears that keep you from truly stepping-up in a relationship. 1. Recognize familiar patterns. Have you heard the same complaints and do you say the same things?
- Monday, January 5, 2009 - 16:50OK. Here are a few quick 'n dirty questions. Where exactly does your relationship stand? If you are ready to be brutally honest, ask yourself these five tough questions. 1. Do you look at other relationships and feel you have settled?
- Thursday, January 1, 2009 - 17:29Are you stuck in a dead-end job or an unfulfilling relationship? If so, January 1st is a perfect opportunity for a new beginning. How to get unstuck for the New Year:
- Sunday, December 28, 2008 - 14:38The mind is like a top. It’s spinning so fast it appears to be standing still. It is only when the top begins to slow down that we can begin to experience how fast it has been moving.
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- Sunday, December 21, 2008 - 13:32To call love a quality would in some way diminish it. Qualities are ranked, judged and categorized, some higher, some lower than others. We tend to think of one quality as good and another as bad. Depending on where we rank on any particular day, we can either end up on the top of the quality continuum or on the bottom.
- Friday, December 19, 2008 - 01:58We are taught that spiritual life requires an inward turning. In doing so, we neglect another part of life that has equal power to transform us – life’s outer manifestations. We are so focused on our inner life that we often become immobilized as we wait for a new feeling to overtake us before we make a change. We are looking for that inner green light.
- Sunday, December 14, 2008 - 12:33We grow up believing it is always important to have plans, but as much as we love knowing what is going to happen, we never like feeling controlled or manipulated.
- Friday, December 12, 2008 - 16:37With a feeling that is stronger than blood and more powerful than genetic coding, we are inextricably linked to our family. Unlike other areas of our life, where we tenaciously cling to rational thinking in the wake of overpowering emotions, our family is perhaps the only place where we willingly abandon logical thinking and lead with the heart.
- Sunday, December 7, 2008 - 13:48The bird of happiness flies with that inextricable mix of surrender and freedom. Surrender is his wing of destiny and freedom his wing of free will. Without both wings, he is forever earthbound, never able to soar.
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- Tuesday, December 2, 2008 - 15:33We assign reasons for why people are together as though logic could solve the mystery. But the answer is not so much secret as it is enigmatic. Often, deep in dreams, when we are draped leg over leg, two as one, under the goose-down comforter, there, in night's stillness, we intuitively know we are exactly where we need to be.
- Saturday, November 29, 2008 - 13:09No one likes to think of themselves as being in a dysfunctional relationship, but at one time or another, all of us have experienced these feelings. We all do it wrong until we learn how to do it right. Here a few things to think about. Dysfunctional relationships make you feel bad about yourself. When you feel bad about yourself...
- Sunday, November 23, 2008 - 20:36When we talk of sexuality we are not talking about explicit sex, either in word or deed. Rather we are referring to a gut feeling that bypasses the mind and body parts and stimulates all the senses. Have you ever noticed the lack of self-consciousness and the confidence that someone really sexual exudes? That's because real sexuality has nothing to do with thinking; it has to do with being-being alive, feeling connected to an inner core. When we are allied with our Inner Self we are turned on and when we are turned on, people are turned on to us.
- Thursday, November 20, 2008 - 14:18Is sexual chemistry missing from your relationship? If you are always longing for something you don't have, don't beat yourself up. Wanting this connection is both natural and normal. 1. Chemistry bypasses the brain. It is not about what you think but what you feel.
- Sunday, November 16, 2008 - 17:49When we are confused there is an incongruity between what we are feeling and what we are thinking. Something in our head is telling us to move forward and at the same time another equally strong feeling is holding us back. This juncture is not something we need to willfully plow through, but rather a stopping post to re-evaluate where we are going.
- Wednesday, November 12, 2008 - 16:45Rather than leave this earthly realm of pain and suffering for a place of perfect peace, the Buddha chose to remain here. He was not deluded – he was enlightened.
- Tuesday, November 11, 2008 - 01:00When something is down and dirty it is as clear and raw as it gets. It is bottom-line, unequivocal, and not up for debate. It has both punch and promise. It often comes at the end of a long inner struggle, sometimes in the shower, sometimes driving in stop and go traffic, and always when we have consciously stopped thinking about it.
- Wednesday, November 5, 2008 - 16:41When we love, most of us think it is a statement about the object of our affection, the one we love. But the truth is – loving is always about us, never about anyone else. That does not mean that others do not affect us, they do. But they are not the source of love. Rather they serve as catalysts by allowing us to touch our own v
The Space Between The Old Way Not Working And The New Way Not Yet Found Is Where Consciousness Expands – Stay In The Gap!Tuesday, November 4, 2008 - 03:22
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