My psychiatrist recommended this book to me, saying that we could save a lot of time on sessions if I read it! She was right: this book is a crash course in dealing with conflict in your relationships.

Dr. Lerner outlines the various types of cycles we get into, or "dances" of anger. If you've ever found yourself having the exact same argument with someone over and over, you'll know exactly how difficult these patterns can be to get out of. Dr. Lerner explains how these patterns develop and how to break them.

The strategies she outlines are so simple, you may find yourself saying, "Why didn't I think of this on my own??" However, putting them into practise at first can be difficult. Thankfully, Lerner also gives suggestions for what to do when you find yourself slipping back into old arguing habits.

I highly recommend owning a copy of this book. My husband and I have both read it and we are constantly lending it out to others.