Getting the Love You Want comes recommended by many therapists and marriage counselors. I found the book to be a good way to open up communication between partners, but my spouse and I did not gain any benefit from the book. I found the exercises to be long-winded and confusing in places. While working with this book, my husband and I spent quite a bit of time figuring out how to complete the exercises. The exercises do require honesty and communication, and in that respect they are a great way for couples to get a good look at the issues in the relationship and open up a dialogue. You must, however, have a good relationship with your partner before starting the exercises though, because these exercises can be almost painful in revealing problems in the relationship. The book certainly does cut to the chase, and although it is confusing in places, it does force an open line of communication between partners in a relationship.