There is a plethora of information that you can pull from this book. I found that I was a codependant to a very close family memeber and by being the codependant I was enabling them. This book breaks down the roles that you play when you are trying to stick to that tried and true saying of "family first". This book allows you to realize that caring for your family and taking care of them are two different things. You have to realize that you must have a certain level of self-preservation. You must realize and achieve your own goals and to do so you must set those boundaries. The other family member must realize that their issues are not your own and that you have to look after your best interests no matter what the issue or situation may be. This book is wonderful and I find myself rereading it at those times when I feel myself about to bail someone out of an issue or pay for someone else's mistakes. I am responsible for my own actions and I am responsible for myself. I am thankful that this book was able to help me realize that.