The main premise of this book was that some of the explosions emanating from our child were not simply willful disobedience, but rather it was part of his personality or make-up. This concept was new to us and at first we resisted the idea. But as we got further into this book, the narratives could’ve been written about a meltdown we’d just experienced! And what’s more, there seemed to be an approach to dealing with such outbursts. One of the most helpful tips was to be sure all the adults who deal with the child prone to these explosive outbursts are on the same page and understand the difficulty the child has with controlling his temper and frustrations before they get to an unmanageable level. Another great help to us was the basket analogy - a way to train our child to begin to gain the skills of flexibility and tolerance for frustrations.
Our home has became a more calm and serene place after we put some of the things we learned from this book into action.