We often talk of falling in love as a mysterious event that happens to us. But in "Getting the Love You Want" Harville Hendrix attempts to explain why we fall in love and how the patterns set earlier in life make that love feel so powerful.

Because love touches our deepest fears and vulnerabilities, he says, it has the power to hurt or to heal us. He gives many compelling examples from his own practice as a psychologist and also includes exercises for couples to work through together.