I have battled depression for most of my adult life. I found John Bradshaw’s book to be a great help. He stresses that we must learn to love ourselves and to stop seeking perfection in ourselves and others. I thought that was a very good message. So many of us are looking for perfection and it doesn’t exist in human beings! He makes us realize that there is no one cure for everyone. He offers many solutions in the second part of his book. I saw myself in many of the words in this book. I like his take on the 12 Step Programs. I have long questioned their efficacy. If you have had problems with depression, guilt, shame, addiction or abuse this book will be of value to you. I definitely recommend this book.