Growing up in a small town it was easy to see how many high schoolers my age really found their own wealth in who they were dating at the time. I think this book is especially relevant for women (because it was written from a woman's point of view) but also women seem to invest more of themselves into relationships and when they end, it can be devastating. (Same goes for men, but Melody is speaking to women). I think its great to realize that you can't control who you love but if you are a great strong man/woman independent of someone else, #1 others are attracted to you, and #2 you are more stable when and if someone did leave you because you are more grounded in who you are and find your identity in that, not the other person.