I was given this book by a friend after she seen me going through my second abusive relationship, I suppose she felt pretty bad for me knowing I was again making the choice to stay in an unhealthy relationship just because I wanted "LOVE", I was at that time in my life willing to except the physical and emotional abuse just to hear someone say they loved me, however I realize today I should have never excepted this type of love. The love I had was very unhealthy for myself and for my children. After reading this book I understood that I was a better person than what I was excepting, I realized that their is love of all sorts and you can learn what healthy love is. Today I live in a very healthy relationship, I am loved respectfully as well as I now know how to love in a positive, not clingy way. I would truly recommend this book for anyone.