i agree with the girl below me. i believe that self motivational books should do just that, they should motivate you to find these things out on your own. how else do you learn these secrets and actually understand them. you have to figure it out for yourself, because every person is different, you cant have one author telling you how it is and how it should be. you have to decide that on your own in order to learn. reading books like this where someone thinks they know it all and are holier than thou are frustrating to read and understand, i find it much easier just to laugh.