Whew boy did I need this book, through out my life I have always been a co dependent, yes its true after reading this book I believe I was even doing this as a child, being a kid of a drug addict father and a mother whom worked worked and worked I believe that's where I began my co dependency, I was always worried about my father, worried if he was okay, worried if he was in jail, so growing up as you can see I was always concerned with others, once I became old enough to become involved in a relationship the same things took place I was always so worried about my drug addict boyfriend I didn't have time to care about myself even through the physical and mental abuse, during my 2 unhealthy relationship is when I read this book, after 7 years of more abuse at the hands of my second boyfriend I finally decided I needed to change me because I couldn't change him, this is exactly what this book talks about, making changes within yourself learning that you deserve the best in life and never settle for less, I look back and wish I would have read this book years earlier If so maybe I wouldn't have wasted so many years being abused, however today I must say I have taken the advice of this book, I live for respect, honesty, love and trust, as well as I know how to give in return without be taking advantage of, I am now married to a wonderful man who does all of the above and I honestly believe its because I know I deserve it and will never settle for nothing less than respect love and honesty.