My mom actually purchased this book for me after the father of my girls was murdered, even though I him and I had been separated for over 3 years I hurt something terrible for my girls and I suppose I also hurt for losing him...besides being extremely angry at his choices in life I had to somehow get past it, with this book I was able to understand my hurt and anger, I was able to communicate with my daughters as well as help them in dealing with the loss of their father, had it not been for this book I believe I would have handled the entire situation surround his death totally wrong, not saying this book totally made things perfect..... far from it but I will say after the reading of this book I was able to cry and feel okay with it even though I was in a great marriage, being married and losing someone you use to love dearly is quite confusing in itself, I wasn't sure if I was suppose to be hurting the way I did, but again this book helps in teaching you that it's okay to hurt cry feel angry and then get past all of it in a positive manner.