The book is good in that it can make a person aware of how their parent?s behaviors help shape who they are for good or bad. However, the book is either disingenuous, or myopic in its treatment of familial dysfunction. For example, the author does not seem to consider that we live in a time of increased social and economic turmoil, brought about by the destabilization of employment sectors through global labor trade. Moreover, given the current state of social and economic disarray that many countries such as Iraq, France, US, Russia and China is it no wonder that the brave people who dare to be parents in such times may present with a myriad of behavioral problems at home? This is not say that there are not bad parents out there..i.e people that don't try to be good parents and care more about their careers, chasing the opposite sex, or accumulating material wealth than spending most of their time with their children. The book simply empowers people to embrace victimization, rather than understand the different ways we are all affected by larger socio-structural forces. A more equitable society = better people= more loving, nurturing environments at home. I think the book is simply a tantalizing apologia for self absorption and ?scape goating.?