Love and Respect is an excellent book to learn how to love your spouse better. The problem is not that there is not love present, but men especially do not know how to express that love. I first heard of this book when my pastor gave a series of sermons on this topic, using Love and Respect as his background text. He brought out so many insights from the book that I figured it was worth a read for its own sake. Everything the pastor said was truly an expression of the author’s ideas, drawn from Scripture. Ephesians 5:33 issues the command for the husband to love the wife, and the wife to respect the husband. Love is self-sacrificing commitment, and respect is a similar commitment, but to positive esteem and evaluation. Granted, these are not always easy even in the best of relationships, but the key is the commitment. By holding firm and fast to that, at times when I find love on the wane, I can remember to act according to that commitment, and not how I feel. I suppose, though you’d have to ask my wife, the woman faces an equal task in her calling to respect.