Let's set the record straight once and for all. Read nice guys...read.

Why do "nice guys' fail so often with women? You divulge too much information too quickly. You appear too needy and too desperate. You try to take care of a woman's every want, need and desire, before she even knows what they are herself. You leave no mystery. You leave no challenge for women to triumph over. You are fearful that once you leave a woman's presence, you also leave her mind. What you don't realize is that if you have captured a woman's imagination, attention or interest in some way, it is the moment that you leave her presence, she can't get you out of her mind.

When you smother a woman, by calling too much, emailing too often, texting too often, being around all the time, you send a very strong message that you have low self-esteem and have little confidence that she will want you just for you or just to be with you. If a woman can sense that you have a successful, independent, exciting and interesting life WITHOUT HER, she may want a life or relationship WITH YOU. If she can sense that she is your entire focus and "reason for being" she may never want one with you. Why? She doesn't have to....as you aren't going anywhere. She can do whatever she wants, date whomever she wants, for as long as she wants, and come back to you weeks, months or years later and be confident that you will STILL be waiting for her. Who wants a guy like that? Not a strong, confident, independent woman who loves a good challenge.

If a woman loses her feeling of passion for you, rarely will she pursue you. Nice guys cause this loss of passion by being too available, too often, in too many ways. Back off, show confidence in yourself and live a life independent of her. Remember, everyone wants what they cannot have. It is okay to let a woman know that you have an interest in her, but then you must have the confidence and courage to back WAY OFF and give her a chance to MISS YOU.

Good luck nice guys, you're going to need it!

Women are crazy.

Why would you want the kind of woman who would date a jerk? Keep in mind that many women are asking why so many men are dating bimbos. It's not strictly a gender issue that people are dissatisfied with the majority of the playing field.

Unfortunatly, dating is a numbers game, so don't fixate on any one woman, even if things are going well, because that can change quickly, and then you'll want to take the blame again, instead of realizing there is no logic with most women...many compulsively chase whatever object appears shiniest to them in any given moment.

So just date with an attitude almost as if you were looking for a new job; date one woman after another, until you find someone who values you for yourself the way you already are, and one you would really enjoy spending time with both in bed and out of bed...that's important. It's going to take a lot of time and effort, because even the best women are known to be flaky and unreliable at times. It's like sifting for gold...you have to go through a lot of dirt before you get the gold. And I'm not saying women are dirt, just that all the bullshit that comes from dating will make you feel dirty. Just keep thinking about that woman out there who is going to value what you offer...she's eating shit too, wading through guys who don't really offer her much. You need to work your way to her, because you deserve to be with one another. In the meantime, you have to just maintain a sense of humor and realize that most of dating is ridiculous nonsense at best and very painful at worst.

Some men and women want exclusive monogamous arrangements and some don't. Decide which camp you belong to and stick with it. Be honest about who you are, how you are and what you want from life. Don't ever be afraid to 'lose the girl'. If she really loves you or is strongly interested in you, she'll almost be impossible to lose anyway. If you ever lose a girl by being yourself or speaking honestly about anything whatsoever, she never was meant to be with you in the first place. Respect yourself and don't become something you're not, just to 'win' her over. It's never a victory to lose your own soul (and that's coming from the mouth of an atheist, by the way).

Many women will 'test' you in a lot of sneaky ways. Again, don't be afraid to 'lose her' by being yourself, standing your ground and speaking your mind. If she can't handle it, it's her issue to cope with, not yours. Let her go and celebrate the unforeseen headaches and drama you've just spared yourself with a good, strong drink or two. Then just remind yourself, that they are just women, after all, and that dating is bullshit for absolutely everyone, even the rich and famous. You're not being singled out for punishment in the universe. Everyone eats shit from time to time. Chin up.

As far as dealing with the sexual frustrations of not having a regular partner to meet your physical needs, well...there are some options for dealing with this situation that don't involve lowering your standards regarding your dating choices, but I'll leave that up to your creative imagination. Just be smart and safe.

Bottom line: always do your thinking with the head above your belt line, not below it, especially when you are making dating choices. And stop feeling sorry for yourself just because there are a lot of shallow, confused women out there (and some of them are smoking hot babes, so I feel your pain, brother) that date jerks and even prefer them in some cases. Let them go because the price you pay for trying to win them over is too high and even if you succeeded, they still wouldn't satisfy you, because they are only concerned with having their own needs met, not yours. Just keep forging ahead and you'll eventually find a girl worth keeping.

Good luck.

The same reason men date "hotties" with no functionning brain cells... ;)

Women want men who have an explicit grasp on reality. Not necessarily an accurate grasp on reality or even a constructive grasp. Just a distinctive grasp on reality. Bad guys seem to have this. Good guys seem to still be feeling their way around, trying to reach a conclusion.
If you talk to a "bad boy" you get a sense of their hold on reality in under a minute. If you talk to a "nice guy" you can't really tell what they are about or if they are about anything at all.