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Barack Obama's Wholly Un-American Speech

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By: Dr. Mark Goulston User is an Expert (see more of Dr. Mark Goulston's blogs)

(as first appeared in basil and spice)

My first reaction to Barack Obama's "More Perfect Union" speech was how utterly un-American it was.

My
second reaction is that I only hope that he continues down that path,
because if he does, he offers America a tremendous opportunity to move
out of and beyond the morass it finds itself in.

His handwritten
speech was not for American Presidents only; it demonstrated three of
the best qualities that any leader can possess and what constitutes
taking on the "real" special interests or shall I say cultural
proclivities that have got America and many American companies into the
morass in which they finds themselves.

Conflict Avoidance – As a country and as a people we don't deal very effectively with
conflict. Instead we react to it by either "bunkering" and trying to
deny reality (such as continuing to believe we could go from supreme
creditor to deepest debtor, without negative repercussions for our
global standing and influence) or by becoming belligerent and hostile.
In his speech, Obama stepped into the fray, articulated and understood
without condoning the positions and points of views of the parties he
focused on and then took on another current and self-defeating American
tendency.

Transactional Myopia – America has
slipped from the high minded and highly principled mindset of figuring
out the right thing to do and doing it to a transactionally myopic "get
the deal, do the deal, next deal" way of thinking and behaving.
American culture has replaced relationships with transactionships which
are "zero sum" and always short sighted. George H. Bush was less myopic
and understood that if you break Iraq you own it, whereas George W.
Bush's leadership (or lack thereof) derives more from his M.B.A., a
degree not known for developing people who are circumspect. People's
conversations, even with their loved ones, have all but been replaced
with negotiations. Negotiation is about winning or avoiding losing;
relationships are about relating. Relating requires listening in order
to understand vs. listening in order to come up with your next
counterpoint. Obama senses the short sightedness and doomed-to-fail
transactional approach and this may explain his reluctance to engage in
"eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth" banter with Hillary Clinton.
The effectiveness in that approach for Clinton garnering votes in Ohio
and Texas only speaks to how many Americans are stuck at that low
minded, low ideal, take vs. give state of mind (which one can
understand when surviving daily can distract anyone from high
mindedness). Obama enjoined and ennobled us to do better by
transcending out of transactional myopia and implied that in doing so
we would be able to transform America from where it is to where it
could be.

Object Capriciousness – "Object
constancy" is one of psychology's most awkward, but most explanatory
terms. It is the ability of a person to maintain a connection and a
relationship with another person, a goal, or hope in the face of
disappointment, frustration, hurt and injury. It is the single
greatest measure of maturity and its lack, the greatest indicator of
immaturity. That is why children and immature adults when upset with a
friend or a spouse, will completely lose their connection and throw
away a relationship by declaring: "I hate you, you're not my friend" or
"Let's get a divorce." Obama demonstrated this by asserting his
continued support and even love for the Reverend Jeremiah Wright while
decrying his statements and positions and confronted all of us with our
continued relationships with people we disagree with. Awareness of this
is also what caused a philosopher (whose name I can't find) to
conclude: "The measure of a civilization is how it treats those who
have hurt it."

Until and unless a leader, be it American
President or corporate CEO can enjoin, ennoble and empower his people
to overcome their conflict avoidance, their transactional myopia, and
object capriciousness a country or a company will be stuck wondering
what ever became of it rather than seizing the grand opportunity of
what it could become.

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Mark,

You should do a YouTube "sing and dance" video for Obama! Interestingly, unlike you, I saw a lot of conflict avoidance, transactional myopia, and object capriciousness in his speech. On the other hand, I do agree with you that his speech was "un-American," but not for the reasons that you are suggesting. This said, this is what makes America so great!

Alex Pattakos, Ph.D.
Author of Prisoners of Our Thoughts:
Viktor Frankl's Principles for Discovering Meaning in Life and Work
Email: alex@prisonersofourthoughts.com
Web: www.prisonersofourthoughts.com

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I think I am trying to look for the half-filled glass in life. I don't want to be a pollyanna or be superficial, but I don't want to grow old being too critical and ending up bitter.

I was on the BBC-TV some years ago with regard to that ridiculous show: "Who Wants to Marry a Millionaire?" Before the participants' relationship fell apart I was asked if I thought it was possible to meet someone in such a setting and have the relationship work. I responded dryly with something like: "If I had the choice of believing that fantasy and magic in relationships was possible or of being cynical, bitter and British, I would choose the former.
Their response: "Let's keep this guy on to be a guest on the next show."

Mark Goulston, M.D.
"Get Out of Your Own Way"
http://markgoulston.com
http://markgoulston.com/blog

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Anyone who's been on the show, "Who Wants to Marry a Millionaire," is alright by me! :) It's too bad that you didn't get an opportunity to counsel Paul McCartney!

Alex Pattakos, Ph.D.
Author of Prisoners of Our Thoughts:
Viktor Frankl's Principles for Discovering Meaning in Life and Work
Email: alex@prisonersofourthoughts.com
Web: www.prisonersofourthoughts.com

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I've watched your condescending, ego-tripping for a while now. It's quite irritating to hear you mock another views by reducing those views to the side-line cheers of a pansy. "Go Obama Boy?!" Apparently anyone that supports Obama must have a YouTube account and pompom's. It's bad enough that you mask your elitist "song and dance" with banal banter...but it's even worse that your phony attempts at humor and diplomacy are painfully transparent to everyone but you. Question: Did you read your own book? Cut the crap and get to your specifics. Talking about the "transactional myopia" you witnessed without the YouTube reference would've made you less of an ass.

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I guess that I shouldn't be surprised that the last couple of comments have been posted "anonymously." Who's the real pansy here?! Alex Pattakos, Ph.D.
Author, Prisoners of Our Thoughts
Email: alex@prisonersofourthoughts.com
Web: www.prisonersofourthoughts.com

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Mark Goulston, M.D.
"Get Out of Your Own Way"
http://markgoulston.com
http://markgoulston.com/blog

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Hi Mark,
Did you borrow this from former N.Y. Governor Eliot Spitzer or current Governor David A. Paterson?! :)

Alex Pattakos, Ph.D.
Author, Prisoners of Our Thoughts
Email: alex@prisonersofourthoughts.com
Web: www.prisonersofourthoughts.com

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