I suffered secretly from Alcoholism for years and I tried many things to break free. This book with the additional help from other books helped me break free and breathe easily!

This book was written from someone who obviously suffered. That's how I took it. I read this book and fully understood the reasonings for things I was doing. Why I was doing certain things. It's scary to do something and not know why you're doing it. This book helped me cope with the fact that I had problem and that the first step to overcome it all started with me. I recommend this book to any who lives with or suffers from this disease. There is still hope out there is you feel like all hope is gone. Pick this book up! You will be saved!

All my life I've lived with an alcoholic my father! Sadly this has created a great deal of pain and suffering for me as a child and a adult. Not until a few years ago did I truly become free from my father. At a very young age I became daddy's little hero, no one or nothing could tell me my dad had a problem. When I finally was at a age that I could understand more I became a liar for him, I use to tell the world that my dad only drank sometimes. However, he drank all day everyday along with using drugs. According to me the worse part of it all was the fact that I moved my father in with me when my mom finally divorced him, he lived with me up until about 5 years ago, and I'll you, it was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do in life(throwing my dad out of my house). I was so mentally messed up feeling like it was my responsibility to care for him, I was constantly running to liquor stores to buy him his liquor so he wouldn't get the ddt's, I was always out and about looking for him all hours of the night being I was worried that someone would hurt him. I lived a horrible life and somehow someway I finally broke loose, I read this book and I have to say, if you or anyone you know are having to deal with a alcoholic I would recommend this book, this book helps you to see things you may not be able to on your own. I encourage you to take the time and read this book. I honestly from my heart hope and pray that you will get as much as I have out of this reading.

I never thought I would end up in a relationship with an alcoholic. But, three years ago, I did. And I stayed with that man almost 2 years. For the longest time, I made excuses, I lied for him, I enabled him. All for a man who would rather take my money and drink then spend a day in and watch a movie with me. I found the strength to leave, and shortly after found this book. Man I wish I had found it WAY sooner! What incredible advice, seemingly written by someone who has been there. Who knows all the tricks, and how to respond. I would recommend this book for children of alcoholics, spouses, siblings, parents and friends. It is a disease that affects not just the person suffering from the disease.

If you've ever been in a relationship or marriage where you live with an alcoholic, you know that denial, saying it isn't that bad, making excuses for bad behavior and anything else you can think of that will not have to make you face reality all becomes a part of your behavior. After living with my alcoholic husband for ten years, this book gave me the courage to love myself and care about myself enough to start thinking of ME. I left my husband and his problem and it was the best thing that ever happened to both of us. It has been very painful, but it has brought a lot of honesty and relief. He joined AA and is in recovery. I don't know if I would have ever had the nerve to take a step for myself without the honest and forthright information this book has to offer. I keep it by my bedside and reread it whenever I need a lift or reassurance. Thank you, Toby, for every chapter, especialy Chapter 33, "Don't Say You're Changing - Just Do It". I recommend this book to anyone in an alcoholic relationship. Like the book says, the decision to stay or not is yours and there are no guarantees either way, but loving yourself FIRST is the best thing you can do for yourself and the ones you love.

This is a must have book for all health care providers to help understand the relationship dynamics of the addict/alcoholic and their spouse/family. As well, Getting Them Sober is a must have for anyone living with alcoholics/addicts. It is very informative and offers advice, ideas, and a program for those involved with this disease process. Don’t be surprised that those who need the information in this book the most, rejects it at first. It is up front, honest information that offers advice that may be discarded by those not ready to face change. The title of this book may be a little misleading because it’s not about how to change the alcoholic; it’s about how to change yourself in the situation and how you respond. Even though this book seems to target the alcoholic disease, the information can be applied in many situations. As a health care professional myself, and the adult child of an alcoholic, this is a must have book that has helped me understand the dynamics of the disease. I highly recommend this book as a staple.