The Five Love Languages of Children
Since 1992, Gary Chapman's bestselling book The Five Love Languages has helped more than 300,00 couples develop stronger, more fulfilling relationships by teaching them to speak one another's love language. Now Chapman teams with Ross Campbell, author of best-seller How to Really Love Your Child, to help parents speak their child's love language.
Each child, like an adult, expresses and receives love best through one of five different communication styles. This truth can work against parents who speak different love languages than their children. However, when properly prepared, moms and dads can use this information to help them meet their children's deepest emotional needs.
Reviews of: The Five Love Languages of Children
The Five Love Languages of Children was really a great book. I had read the original "Five Love Languages" a few years ago and it really made an impact in my marriage. So, when our son was born, I knew this was a book I wanted to read. This book basically does for the parent/child relationship what the original book did for the married couple. It speaks of how each child expresses themselves through the five love languages: quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service and physical touch. I like the fact that Dr. Chapman points out that interaction with our children needs to involve all five love languages, but for each child, there is one that he or she will respond to / crave the most. I learned a lot about myself as well as my son and I couldn't be happier. I highly recommend this book!!
Dr. Chapman’s book “The Five Love Languages” was great. It focused on learning how best to express love in a marriage relationship. This book addresses how each child expresses and receives love best through one of five primary "languages" - quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, or physical touch. Children need to be spoken to in each of these love languages, but there's one love language that meets their deepest emotional needs and should be used often with them. Often it is difficult as a parent to know you are fulfilling your child’s emotional needs –this book will put you in the “know” (I did it for me). You will learn a great deal about your child and you will also learn about yourself. A great read and highly recommended.
The Five Love Languages of Children should be a must read not only for parents, but caregivers as well. The philosophy is simple, but few every realize enough to do it. It requires parents to stop and pay attention to there children by simply observing them and listening to them. I had thought I was spending enough time playing with my kids and showing them the love they needed. Occasionally, I would hear instances of insecurity and pleading for more time together. After this book I have learned to play closer attention to what they are telling me, instead of what I believe. I have also learned to give them choices between quality time and other things. When they have the choice, more often then not they choose quality time. The authors also realize that not every child is the same and they each need to be communicated in a language of love they understand. It is a great book that has opened my eyes.
I read this after reading Chapman's original Five Love Languages. Although I don't have children yet, it has helped me to relate more effectively with my nieces and nephews, as well as with friends' kids. It can be hard to remember at times that kids behave in certain ways to get attention or get other needs met, but this book reminded me that there are lots of ways to communicate with children and help them get their needs met. I think it will be helpful to me if I ever have kids to return to this book and try to nurture them in ways that fit their unique perspectives on what feels loving.
My mom found this at the school where she teaches and lent it to me. I try really hard to be a good mom (I suffer from the "I have to be the best because I'm alone" mom syndrome!) and want to understand my son as best as I can. This book is very informative in understanding the different ways people (not just children) love, and how to reinforce that love, and make them feel truly loved and part of the family. Books like this are just one more way to love your child, knowing how to work with it.
What a great book! I totally agree with Gary Chapman's premise of types of things that matter most to kids. most people today think that only buying and giving things to a child show love which is totally off base. i found out a long time ago that the time spent with a child, giving your undivided attention, is probably the greatest gift you can give. also way up there on the list is physical touch and positive affirmations. children revel in the glow of you talking to someone else about how great they are. physical touch is a given. humans need that as much as they need water and air. one thing i come across a lot is the lack of discipline that children have and you can guarantee that these children are acting angry because discipline shows them how much you care for them. ok i'll get off my soapbox..this book is a must read.
As a parent to three children, one is a biological child, the other two were born in our hearts and adopted. They all have different personalities and needs. Parenting them all the same doesn't meet their individual needs....just like as adults one size does not fit all.
In the Five Love Languages you are given not just the five languages but you also are there with the Author who shares personal reflection and stories that speak not just words, but you get to see it in action.
For our adopted children, I love this book because when you get a child who has been in multiple placements before they come to you, their emotions are damaged and need God's touch and healing. With this book you are getting to their hearts and needs, giving the children a chance to bond and know without a doubt that you love them with all your heart.
This book is excellent and well written... highly recommended.
This book was a real eye-opener to my husband and I. We kept praising our son in an effort to reward him, but he would tell us we didn't love him as much as his sister. We were mystified. We felt like we were losing something precious with him. We heard about this book and it really helped us understand the differences in children (and adults!). The basic idea is that each person is more receptive to one way of expressing love. Everyone wants to love and be loved deeply by his family. If you need to connect with your child more deeply, this is the book for you. It takes a general concept and makes it practical. I think you will experience better relationships with your children, spouse and on down the line, if you take the time to speak their "love language".