He's Just Not That into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys
Everyone can use a daily wake-up call.
Now in bite-size mantras, the abridged empathetic wit and wisdom of the number one New York Times bestseller He's Just Not That Into You will recharge and inspire your dating outlook one wake-up call at a time.
For ages women have come together over coffee, cocktails, or late-night phone chats to analyze the puzzling behavior of men. Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo are here to say that —despite good intentions— you're wasting your time. Men are not complicated, although they'd like you to think they are. And there are no mixed messages.
The truth may be, He's just not that into you.
He's Just Not That Into You —based on a popular episode of Sex and the City— educates otherwise smart women on how to tell when a guy just doesn't like them enough, so they can stop wasting time making excuses for a dead-end relationship. This book knows you're a beautiful, smart, funny woman who deserves better.
Reviews of: He's Just Not That into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding...
I checked this book out when I was in a relationship that I was too weak to get out of. It made me feel better to know other people had been thru the same thing. It's straight forward and funny.
I was going through one of the hardest marriages any woman ever had to go through. My husband, at the time, took me for granted in every way possible. I can't even begin to count how many times I found love letters to other women, stating that I meant nothing to him. How he was just using me for the money and benefits of the military, it was nuts!
I went to the library everyday, just to get out of the house and get away from him. I came across this book, and it was the best thing that ever happened to me. This book was a rude awakening, that I needed. It doesn't waste any time giving someone false hope on a relationship that isn't going to work out. It's funny, it's honest, and most of all... it's real. This book helped me understand why things were happening and that it wasn't my fault. It's just another part of life, and he and I were definately not meant for eachother. After reading this book, I had enough confidence in myself to make the decision to walk away from the most unhealthiest relationship of my life. I am now re-married and the happiest I've ever been. This book was worth the time, especially if you're looking for some self-love book, that pretty much gets it through your thick skull.
Women grow up with most of their dating advice from fairy tails and sitcoms. He's Just Not That Into You is a refreshing lense to view relationships through and for women to think about their own behavior and self worth in a relationship. Readers should be careful about using it as a justification to pick apart and put under a microscope their partner's every action and put them on trial which will ultimately drive them away.
I was given this book as a gift when a friend realized I was heading down the same "I wonder if he's trying to make me think..." path that I'd been down before. I was astonished to learn...yup...he just wasn't that into me. Reading this book and learning the simple truth about guys, that they really aren't as complex as we give them credit for, has saved me from wasting a lot of time.
I bought this book for a good friend of mine and read it myself. It's a cynical lesson in accepting things that we may not want to see. It's also an eye opener to women to stop waiting around by the phone and to get out and circulate. Stop wondering why he doesn't call, and forget about calling him. This book is convincing even to those women who have a hard time accepting that they're worth more, and shouldn't wait around for someone who may never call.
I Purchased this book after I was ending my second unhealthy relationship, For the life in me I couldn't understand what in the heck I was doing wrong to have these relationships end the way they did. During the time I was in these sick relationships I would literally do everything and anything to make these guys happy, however no matter what I did they both still cheated and both still abused me physically and mentally. I mean who in their right mind would want to stay in such a crazy relationship? well guess what you found her, me! After the second relationship ended I vowed to never again be hit or mentally abused which is what made me take a trip down to the library and get every book I could about relationships. Thank Goodness I did after reading and reading and reading I can honestly say my life has changed in a positive way, I no longer dwell on the things of my past and if it's one thing above all that I learned from this reading was the fact that things are not always my fault, and no matter what you can get through the break-ups.
This book hits the nail on the head for girls who can't seem to wrap their heads around the guys they crush on. As the reviewer below noted, the truth hurts, but it has to be told. Most dating books espouse the go-getter woman, you know, the one that aggressively seeks out the guy she wants or makes a mountain out of a molehill of signals he reluctantly gives out.
First, from experience, a guy who really wants his girl will go after her, no questions asked. A guy that doesn't probably want to be a friend. And that is it. If there's a sense of reluctance, don't give him any excuses, move on with your life. Hopefully, someone else who loves you well enough will pursue you. That's how courtships work.
This book gives an unhinged, no-bars view into the way your man-crush might probably be thinking if he acts a certain way. This at times might not be as cookie-cutter as the rest of the dating books you are reading, but at least, you know what's really up.
I purchased this book to go with my original copy of " He's Just Not That Into You". I love the form and grace to which he gives you his perspective. I enjoy the fact that he can tackle those risky or troubling subjects that women often find themselves asking "why?". This book is the end-all be all for those who just got out of a relationship and have questions regarding what happened and why it happened. He gives you the stories to give you a wake up call on the fact that you are to be empowered in knowing that each relationship that ends is not your fault. The man you might be in a relationship with may not be "the one" and it's okay. I love him as an author and respect him being the one man who could really break down the reasons why my relationships have the flaws that they do.
Maybe the truth does hurt a little but we all need to hear it. A lot of the time we already know what the truth is but we torture ourselves and other people sometimes for months, other times for years. We all know the kind of guy that only pays attention when he wants one thing but he's so irresistible we can't turn ourselves away from him. He uses, abuses, talks to your friends, ignores, doesn't call, turns his back, doesn't notice you when want him to. But there's just no way we're listening when someone tells you the simple plain ol'fact that He's Just Not That into You:
It's a great eye opener for those who just don't get it.
As soon as I had flipped through the first few pages of this book, my jaw dropped to the ground. "Oh my gosh," I thought to myself. "He's not that into me." My heart sank, but only because I knew it was the truth.
Boys really are not complicated creatures. They speak so clearly with their actions - and I think many women (including myself) just ignore those messages in hopes that this guy - Mr. Obviously Wrong But I Don't Want to Admit It - is truly "The One."
This book is funny and amazingly liberating. I still go back and read the pages whenever I am in a slump, or have a gut feeling that a guy doesn't really like me. It gives me a good swift kick in the pants to walk out of one relationship and pick another guy .. and maybe, just maybe, one day the book won't apply to my life anymore.
"He's Just Not That into You: The No Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys" is an amazing book for women to read after going through a breakup. Not only is it funny and engaging but also it is full of worthwhile lessons. There are many things asked in this book you’ve most likely always wondered from a male’s POV but now they are finally answered. Written by one of the scriptwriters of “Sex & the City”, it may even make you feel better you are not as ”crazy” as some of the other women who wrote to the author of this book as it is entirely in ”letters & response” format. Some parts will have you laughing out loud! You'll have many great lessons to take from this book. I loved this book as did all my friends. I cannot tell you how many women I lent it to and had to repeatedly ask for it back!
I got this book from a garage sale. Best dollar I spent that day. I remember hearing this phrase first on Sex and the City, and then it blew up into a star in its own right. I think the message is very solid, if not pedantic. The phrase is constantly repeated throughout the book, which can sound a bit condescending.
The book is written in a Question & Answer format, like letters to an editor. Some of the questions are valid questions that real people would ask, and some of the questions are comical, because no one in their right mind would ask those questions. I thought the book did a good job of explaining the guy mindset, which is very difficult for women to understand. This book is really funny and engaging. It's a quick read. I was over with it in about 2 hours (which is lightning fast for me). I will reiterate, though, that sometimes this book feels like it's beating a dead horse.
The title pretty much says it all. A fairly good read. It might be something you don't want to hear, but it's honest. It doesn't go into depths with scenerios, which, as women, we sometimes find ourselves trying to analyze situations, but the truth is the truth. There's not much we can do about it if a man isn't really into us.
An honest book.