I have to admit...I read this book and then sat in stunned silence. I was thinking, "Wow, I can't believe I actually bought that book." I actaulyl bought this book because my sister had made some bad choices and I thought by reading it I might be able to better understand her and try to help her somehow. Basically, I didn't get any insight on why she did these things. There is no explanation for why women do these things or how they can be helped to change their lives, just basically that they need to feel terrible about themselves because they did these things and just deal with it. I feel like everyone makes mistakes and this book was kind of a way for Dr. Laura to talk down to anyone who has ever done that. I wouldn't recommend this bok to someone who is trying to help themselves or someone else work through some difficult times in their lives. Trust me, it will only make it worse.

I agree most of the points of Dr. Laura in this awesome book. She discusses precisely about ten stupid things women do to mess up their precious lives. The attitudes of Women are different and their perspective towards love and relationships are much different from the views of men.

Dr. Laura says that most of the women carry on their childhood emptiness that spoils their relationships. I can’t agree with her on this point. Otherwise all her other points sound meaningful to me. It is true that most of the women feel unfulfilled in love. They are never content and always expect something more.

They also feel that they are not accepted by their men, as they wanted to be. I do agree with the author that women just settle with their relationships. They make compromises and continue the relationships. She has not given any advice to mend the messed up lives. It would have been finer if she gave a few tips to strengthen their relationships.

I've been reading this over the past two days and it was not what I was expecting at all. It focused mainly on men and relationships, which caught me off guard. But I like how Dr. Laura gets to the bottom of relationship issues. I don't completely agree with her, but she says that most relationship problems come from some sort of childhood trauma or emptiness. I agree with the latter argument for the most part. She says that when women feel unfulfilled in life, love becomes their ultimate driving force. And I see this in myself and a lot of women I know. She says it comes not only from unfulfillment, but also from low self-esteem. A need to be accepted by men. And she says that in order to feel better about ourselves, we need to go out into the world and create. Not babies or relationships or marriages, but something of ourselves independently. I've always wondered why I've been so boy-crazy and so engulfed in romantic relationships, like they are the end-all of my existence. And Dr. Laura did a pretty good job of hitting the nail on the head. I feel a lot stronger since I read this book. Though it may not be everyone's cup of tea, I enjoy her no-nonsense, unapologetic, and common sense approach to life.

Another great book from Dr. Laura. She is a no-nonsense straight to the point author. Highly recommended.

I liked this book. As always, Dr. Laura tells it like it is. I think, for many people, it is hard to read because it is hard to take responsibility of our own bad mistakes. Dr. Laura does not hold back in this book and she makes sense.

I borrowed this book from the library after becoming a fan of the radio show. Dr. Laura is imminently controversial and got over the fear of ruffling anyone's feathers a very long time ago. And so she shoots from the hip. We all say that is what we admire and that we want to hear what she has to say, but when she says it, the stupid women of the world get mad! While I cannot agree totally with everything Ms Schlessinger espouses, she is right on target about the Ten Stupid Things Women Do. If you have any doubts, look around at the wasteland of broken marriages and families and the generations of children who will never know the security of an intact nuclear family. Stupid and selfish decisions have consequences and that is the message that Dr. Laura is bringing home. Take note of where such stupid reasonings will take you - and your loved ones - and ponder on whether you can really afford to be so "stupid". Read this book and wise up.

When a close friend of mine recommended I read this book, I took her advice. After a recent break-up with a man, who perhaps, didn't deserve my love, I felt lost and alone. I know my friend wanted to help me.

Dr. Schlessinger's book bored and angered me, rather than educated me. I admit, I need all the relationship help I can find. I wonder if I'm angry after reading the book, because Dr. Schlessinger writes the book in anger?

I found the book judgmental and the good doctor's words crass and close to cruel. Using her radio talk show interviews as examples, Dr. Laura delivers her advice with a punch.

Nice women with problems get attacked and demoralized. Dr. Laura's words and ideas remind me of cave-man mentality.

Her book ends with the quote: “So, in conclusion, to avoid Stupid Break-ups, now that you've read the book, open up the Bible.”

I kid you not. Reading this quote loads you up with the full flavor of Dr. Laura Schlessinger's anger, directed at you and at me.

Dear Dr. Laura, I don't like your book.

I checked this book out of our local library when I read about it at People Jam.

In our extended family on my husbands side, there is a niece who has gone through some very hard bumps in life. She unexpectedly became pregnant at 18 years old; married the baby's father to "make it right". She became pregnant when the first baby was 2 months old; saw her husband take his own life; then gave birth 5 months later to their second child. She lived with her parents until her children were 10 & 11 years old. She was engaged to be married to a fine man, who loved her children as his own, but he got cold feet and called off the wedding a month prior too. My niece became very despondent and within six months jumped into a relationship in which she was abused from the first day, but still would not or could not see the self destruction. She married this man when she again became pregnant 2 months into the relationship. She miscarried that baby, but went on to get pregnant again and then their last child followed 12 months apart. Today, all four children have walked through many bad moments and they are on the verge of divorce as I write this. The children were never abused in anyway physically...but emotionally they have all watched as mom was beaten regularly. My neice is so much stronger now and is stepping up to not take the abuse any longer. The sad thing about it all.... the husband to be that had gotten cold feet... they ran into each other in the store a year ago. He is still single and shared with her that he knew he had made a mistake because he still loved her.

I know the above explanation was lengthy, but I needed to share it to give my perspective on Dr. Laura's book. I feel this book is written from a clinical view point instead of one where the author makes you feel like a friend having coffee while you talk.

I will admit, that I did not know whey my niece made the choices she did, then lived with them so long. But, reading Dr. Laura's book put it into perspective. Many times when a person is hurting, or lonely, they do just want it to go away and make it better. Sometimes one of the easiest ways is to jump into relationships the do indeed put a band aid on it for awhile and the loneliness goes away for while, but always comes back.

My niece has has total family support the whole time, but she couldn't receive or get help until she was at the point where she was ready.

I recommend reading this book if you have a friend or family member making choices that don't seem to make sense. Because when you have knowledge you can better know how to not just be there for them, but to also gently encourage them to reach out for additional help when they are ready including giving them a copy of the book.

This book is just sad. I read it out of curiosity because I fell for the title. I wanted to know what some women thought that every other woman on the planet did to self-handedly screw up their lives. And what I found was quite depressing. The author goes into aspects of a woman’s life, such as relationships, personal choices, and even motherhood. In one chapter, she states that women just “settle” with relationships and how we ultimately define guys are the dominate species and basically do not know how to handle ourselves so we rely on men. I think that is crap. I know tons of women who are very independent and make great decisions and never “settle” for anything less than extraordinary. The overall tone of the book is really daunting. She even says that the fairytale ideals of a man are absurd and are constantly leaving people disappointed. In a way, it is like she is saying, “Quit dreaming of prince charming. He isn’t coming.” But isn’t that in itself a little hypocritical? If we don’t dream for greatness… aren’t we just “settling”?

My mother actually bought this book for me because she feels that I am an absolute idiot. This book took the same tone. I really felt like an idiot after reading it.

It doesn't go into detail about why you do these ten stupid things or what you can do to reverse these ten stupid things. Basically, you're supposed to feel bad about yourself because you've done these ten stupid things. I don't understand what the purpose of this book is. Most of us realize we've made a mistake after we've made it, and I don't feel we should get thumped on the head for it.

If you find that you get into relationships that aren't good for you, maybe you should look into books on codepency, dysfunctional families, self esteem, etc. There are some excellent books out there to help you recognize your self-destructive patterns and how to overcome them. This isn't one of them.

Because everyone seems to hate Dr. Laura, I thought there must be something to like about her. As a conservative myself, I actually enjoyed her radio program, and interviews, however (and this is a big however) her writing style is not for me. I found that out when I read Ten Stupid Things Women Do To Mess Up Their Lives. Initially, I was really excited to read it. I thought, yay, tell me (or more so, them) how we're messing up our lives. But the tone of the book comes across as preachy and condescending. I'm sure you're thinking, well, it's Dr. Laura, you know... but even still, I expected there to be some sort of introspection or information on how to make one's self better. She writes in the narrative of her radio voice, but it doesn't translate well. Even 100 pages through, all Dr. Laura manages to do is brow-beat women without explaining why a certain action is destructive.