My wife bought me this book, after seeing some of the problems I was having with friends on and off the job. It was hard for me to commit to working with other people, much less socializing with them. This book has changed my life tremendously. Not only am I more open with my wife, but I'm more open to other people. I'm even open to people that I don't know. No more quiet man here. I recommend this book to anyone that has a social phobia like I used to. It will change your life, in so many good ways. It was the best gift I've ever gotten. Thank God for wives that read and stay tuned in with everything!

I bought this book for a friend of mine, who has trouble getting close to anyone, not just women. His family accused him of being gay, because he never had a girlfriend. I've always been the type of person that someone could get close to fairly quick, and he and I have a beautiful friendship. He told me he was scared of love or allowing people to get too close to him, he was quick to inform me that he was someone that just couldn't open up. I can't blame him, he had a pretty traumatic childhood. How could I expect him to trust anyone? A week after giving him this book, he's starting to understand that he's not the only person that has this problem. He's starting to open up a lot more and actually give people the opportunity to get the know the amazing person he is. It's nice to see the change. He and I are both greatful for this book, because it's done wonders for his life, and it's made me feel like the best friend a guy could ask for.

This book is a pretty good book, with lots of useful information on discovering why you tend to be commitment phobic. That being said, there's nothing really there for what to do about it, or discover whats causing it. However, they do suggest professional counseling, which I think anyone can benefit from. (I did!) Some of the generalizations are a bit caustic, but sometimes it does well to remember that books for self help are generally written from the authors perspective and point of view, not basic fact.

After writing "Men Who Can't Love" about commitment-phobia (I can never figure out if that's two words or one so I take the easy way out and use the hyphen), enough complaints about it being biased against men prompted the author(s) to do a follow-up book to fill some holes. I suspect that probably making hundreds of thousands of dollars off of the first book was another good reason for this follow-up. Let's see if the sequel is as good as the original.

This book is very similar to Men Who Can't Love and uses many interviews and studies of many men and women who have been screwed, both literally and figuratively in relationships. Some of my favorite stories include the lady who was engaged to be married, had a wedding date set, and then her fiance joined the Peace Corps and left the country two days before the wedding...without her! This is a fun, and great book once again explaining the crazy thought processes of commitment-phobes (there's that hyphen again) and how they disqualify and run away from great partners. Her Mom is fat so maybe she'll be fat - write off. I don't like the way she holds a fork - write off. She's too short, she's too rich, she's too...you name it. I've been doing it my whole life.

I liked this book a lot. It was pretty much the same as the first one, but better organized. It didn't go so much into how to fix the problem other than to recognize it, and seek a therapist! But that's fine because just reading it made me feel less crazy. I could have sworn I saw myself on many of the pages and felt comforted that I was not the only one who has acted weird. The part where he talked about how the more you love a guy the more he resents you for loving him hit a good chord with me since I went through that and began resenting the girl in the same way.

Again, I highly recommend the book, even though it is repetitive. Even though the book was supposed to address how women are also phobic, I think the author just sprinkled in a couple of female cases just to appease some critics - the book is really about how crazy we guys are. Besides, naturally speaking it's mostly us men who are programmed to spread our seed among many and in this way it's harder for many of us to make a commitment to just one person. If you liked Men Who Can't Love, you'll like this one as well.