The Art of Friendship
Roger Horchow & Sally Horchow share their rules of connecting in The Art of Friendship: 70 Simple Rules for Making Meaningful Connections,
a stylish, elegant primer on making and maintaining authentic friendships. With a foreword by Malcolm Gladwell.
Reviews of: The Art of Friendship
Growing up, I had such a hard time connecting with people. I spent most of my time, in highschool, being a loner. I didn't know how to talk to people, much less understand them. I ran across this book at a rummage sale and paid whole twenty-five cents for it. After reading this book, I didn't only learn how to open up to people. I learned how to understand them. A result of this is people now come to me for advice on everything, I'm their go-to girl. I've learned how to help people, and it's never hard for me to make a friend. I'm more outspoken and outgoing, when it comes to people. They find it hard to believe that I was ever that quiet and shy girl they once knew. I don't think anyone would trade me today for anything else in the world, except for when I talk too much. (lol) This book is awesome for someone that has anxieties of people like I did. It'll help them understand that there's not just something wrong with you, but other people as well.
I'm embarrassed to admit how much I needed this book. But the truth is, I used to be terrible at communicating with people. Making new friends was just something that I didn't do, period. I didn't know how!
Well, THE ART OF FRIENDSHIP has helped me change that as much as I suppose I ever will. I admit, I'm still a jerk sometimes, but as someone who had no clue how to be nice to people before reading this book, it's made a huge difference.
A lot of it, I've heard, is just reminders of what you're supposed to do with people, such as empathize with them and listen when they're talking. I think that everyone can use a book of reminders like that, though, and should pick up THE ART OF FRIENDSHIP as soon as possible.
I got this book as a gift, and it must be one of the best gift's I've ever got. There is something for everyone in it. Friends are the greatest blessing you can receive, and keeping a friend forever isn't as easy as it sounds. Small fights can lead to huge misunderstandings, and break a good friendship. These are problems that everyone faces, and this book has an answer to everything. I found this book extremely helpful, and it's helped me handle some stressful situations. And not just me. My whole family's read this book, and it's almost become our family guide to friendship. Because, it's not everyday you find a friend who stays with you for a lifetime.
As I mentioned in some other posts around here, I have a group of guys that I mentor at my church and its kind of hard to make them "open up" and learn to be good friends and so I've been pulling my hair out thinking of ways to make this work. With a bundle of books I finally have done it. And its been through the natural flow of communication and friendship building that this book has so beautifully illustrated. I am proud to say that by the end of this book I did not have to worry about people's insecurities, their shortcomings, because their own human instincts kicked in and "made it work". I'm really happy to say this is the best $20 I've spent.