Pull a page from Carson Kressley's show on Lifetime Network. He takes the women on a five day journey to loving themselves. To shifting the body image, which is linked to your physical, mental,emotional, and spiritual being as Coach Linda pointed out. You've got to start where you live, in your own body. If you don't love (and respect you) how else will anyone else. And while you are at it, throw in a healthy does of boundaries.

So many people have fear of being alone. I was one of them. I was dating again and on my way to the altar again even before the ink was dry on my divorce. I was terrified of being alone at the time and I was willing to settle, to be something like the women that you speak of David in order to get what I thought was my Mr. Right and knight in shining armor. In my case my rose colored glasses hid what I did not want to see.

It was not that I was the lay away women, or plan B as you called it. It's that I settled for less than I deserved because I was too afraid to be by myself for a while to figure out who I was and what I wanted. Dating yourself is great advice. Loving what is about yourself is likewise important. Get real about who you are and you'll be much less likely to be played as plan B.

As Carson teaches the women on his show, learn to love the women you are. You'll be surprised and amazed at how beautiful you really are!

Blessings,

Nellie