About a year before our 30th anniversary, my wife asked that we invite our family and friends on a cruise to renew our wedding vows. At first, the idea sounded outrageous to me. Who would come? How much would it cost? Who would make the arrangements? I said YES only because she really wanted the celebration. 20 people joined us on the 4-day cruise. They all enjoyed the touching renewal ceremony and gala celebration that followed. My sister-in-law's gift was a movie that chronicled the key events in our 35-year relationship: meeting in high school, college graduations, several new homes, daughters growing up, the birth of our first grandson, and holiday celebrations. Those joyous memories were created by a YES. My wife's YESes are the Wind Beneath My Wings that lifts me to new heights.

Long time marriage partners often wonder where the fun and romance went. Maybe it got lost in too many NOs. 35 years ago if my wife asked me to go shopping, I'd say YES just to be with her. Today, my first thought is NO when she asks me to go shopping. But my YES or NO has little to do with shopping. It is about being together. YES says "I want to be with you", while NO says "something else is more important". After too many "something elses", she may conclude I don't like being with her. Too many NOs are a dragon that weakens a marriage, and forces partners to look elsewhere for YESes. Try more YESes today in your most important relationship.