I’ve always had a hard time understanding the concept of a
soulmate and I have yet to find someone who understands it well enough to
explain it to me. Maybe that's because the answer is left up to each individual's interpretation but I still continue to ask in hopes that maybe something will click!

My real question is do soulmates really exist? Is the there
really someone out there that holds the other half to our soul? Are we
incomplete without that other half?

I am in no way trying to be pessimistic. I am simply trying
to understand this. The concept of love is not hard for me to understand. That can
simply be understood as deep and profound feelings for another. But a soulmate
is supposed to be even deeper than just another lover. A soulmate is supposed
to be the ONE person in the world that you are destined to be with. Now this is
where I get confused. We as humans are naturally able to love more than one
person in our lifetime. How do you determine which lover is your soulmate? Is it just the one you settled down with? The one who made you smile the most? The one you had the most in common
with? Or do you just simply know who it is?

And if we as humans create our own destiny, do we create our
own soulmates as well?