Check out Helena Rosenberg's Dating Tips video on the LOVE page. She suggests the same exact thing!

Unless you're just looking for a fling, it's generally a wise idea to establish emotional intimacy before physical intimacy. Thanks for sharing your advice, Amanda.

Granted I am a religous person (for the most part), so abstinence is not something I can really argue against. HOWEVER, are rules in life ever a good thing? Is a month good, what about 29 days, 2 weeks, 3 months? I think every situation requires a look at all the variables and a decision on what makes the most sense at that given moment in time. I think getting to know someone before intimacy is a good thing - I think a set time/rule is not.

Now, let's follow this through to its one-month conclusion. Why on earth would you want to lead on a dude for a month, if you really, after four or five dates, can't see yourself with him?

It's really not about leading anyone on. It's about complete honesty, which takes into account that bodily urges in the heat of the moment are just that, bodily urges. If you've ever fallen in love, under a month, and you didn't regret the pace of the relationship, then God bless ya! For the rest of us, who are just trying to figure it all out, then taking your time is the best way to go.

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In the past, I have mostly followed my physical desires and engaged in physical contact with the person I was dating shortly after the first date. I've had long term relationships that have started that way and some that didn't go very far. Now, I realize that if I find myself physically involved with someone it won't turn into something worthwhile. Truth is, we've slept together because I'm probably not all that interested in really getting to him and reaching real intimacy. When I meet a man I'm genuinely interested in dating and spending time with...I'll be holding off on ripping each other's clothes off.

I got this term from the movie "Vanilla Sky." It's about how drawing out the process of getting close can be so much more exciting. I think it helps to think of it this way. Don't think of it as denying yourself. Think of it as slowly getting closer and closer. If you really do enjoy their company then it's very easy to do this slowly. In fact... it's sexy.

...it's about waiting for a commitment. If you can't handle sex without knowing there's a future, don't have sex. If you can deal with it, face the fact that sometimes things won't work out. More sex = more heartbreak.

It's not about an arbitrary time-frame. I simply believe that 1-month (for another it might be 1-week) is a good rule of thumb when you're uncertain about the future of the relationship or whether or not, you even want to see the person again.

How many real and lasting commitments were made forged in a couple weeks?

I'm stressing the importance of patience and discovery and not sex per se and everything that comes with it.

Initially, I thought you were discussing delaying physical intimacy, and continuing to date someone you weren't exactly thrilled to be dating. But I see. It's easy to get caught up in the moment -- the first moment, the sixth moment -- but if you wait, and tell the person you're waiting and not a cold fish, it establishes a deeper connection to begin with.

When guys hear of my one-month rule, their response is always positive. They admire it and I think they like the challenge. Some disappear before the month is up and some stick around.

One guy scoffed and said, "in a month, I will no longer be interested." We both laughed. We're still seeing each other and I like him more than I did when I first met him.

We had lunch today and I asked him if the month was up and he said, "I think it's been like 40days but I have to call my mother and check the calendar."

He cracks me up!

Screw it, whats with all of these rules and regulations?! Some relationships move faster than others and why waste a whole month to figure out that you could pleasure yourself alot better than the other person ever could. Its like a new car you need to take it for a test drive before you purchase it. Ride it, see how you like it.

Personality only goes so far. If you end up being with someone that sucks in bed then it could cause problems in the relationship or marrage. Dont get me wrong im all for marrage and monogamous relationships but no matter who you are sex is very important at one time or another.

I'm not one for "screwing.." The f-word is blah, making love sounds so serious, having sex is just so run of the mill. Your comment made me laugh because I hate rules and regulations. Still, when it comes to my body, I'm not gonna fit 5 people inside it as was the case with my car, last night.

I don't know that I'm all for marriage nor all for monogamy. I just know that if it wasn't for my personal rule, what's to stop me from F#$%ing everyone in sight? Or at least those that I'm attracted to who happen to want to get in my pants? That's way too much sex, with way too many people. I'm too sensitive and vulnerable for such behavior. If the next guy or girl can handle it, then sure, screw your brains out.

My experience has been that "things that start fast, end fast." I had an ex-boyfriend tell me that one. Sex and pleasure are extremely important to me, so I wait and have foreplay.....I don't know what else to say.

Shit happens-- It's still all good and it* was great! What takes three weeks for some, could take three nights, or three hours for others. It's useful to be able to distinguish what I really want and when I really want it from base urges and flash in the pan desires on the fly. Discipline and personal codes of conduct (in all areas of life) are much needed in this frenzied world. The end result is that our decisions become healthier, more beneficial. The bottom line is that healthier, individual, attitudes and perspectives become the collective consciousness of a society that is finally free of fear and anxiety of the unknown.

Support our troops, bring em' home!!!

... especially when you make the rules yourself. Hope it was worthwhile.

I agree with the whole waiting part. My boyfriend and I waited for a few weeks. I couldn't wait anymore. I felt the time was right for us and it was mad crazy. We were at it for literally days. We still go at it like that. Evertime is so special and still wild. We have been together for four years now. My son loves him and I love him too. Not a bad thing to wait. I think I have a winner.