SYSTEM COACHING

By Bartholomeus Nicolaas Engelbertus Kalshoven (February 2008. Partner; Holigral International) (C)

I go on the following assumption; coaching is the new teaching format, and a vehicle that allows, better than traditional curriculum based teachings, more intention from the coach to come through to the coachee. No matter what coaching models the coach uses, whether strictly goal orientated, or working more on a experiential and bodily (ontologically) level, I believe that it is the (com)passion and intent of the coach that does the real work. Two chefs identically trained create altogether different food?

That raises a question. What is the coach’s intent, consciously or subconsciously? And further, what bodily or spiritual (the intent) message does the coach communicate? And, perhaps the real question form a practical point of view; How much of the coach’s communication is matched, verbally, bodily, and spiritually? A good communicator (Bill Clinton, Oprah) is someone with good phase. Someone who’s body language matches his or her words. Combine that with a not overwhelming presence and you have a decent base skill set for, well, anything really - but definitely a good communicator of knowledge.

Good, not excellent as a good phaser still only matches 2 out of 3 elements. So what brings excellence into coaching? Where is the future of coaching? It isn’t beyond coaching…but what about before? Or right in the middle, the heart of it?
Does teaching and coaching need improvement? Well, perhaps not. But coaches and teachers may feel the need and curiosity to find what else is there. And there is something out there.
It isn’t something to add–on, something to improve. No, what is out there is a system orientated form of coaching that brings the coachee into a position where they not only match verbally and bodily but also spiritually.

Ever wondered why young children do not listen to the words you speak? Simply because spiritually and bodily you weren’t matching what was coming out of your mouth. Same for your staff, or other people around you who you ever gave advice, direction.
Humans, mostly subconsciously now, have the ability to read other people’s intent. Some people have learnt how to read body language, but most of us are only in love with what comes out of people’s mouth.
How many times have you said ‘yes’ to something when you felt ‘no’? How much more effective would you be if you could read other peoples intent rather than body and verbal language which is subjective to manipulation?

Firstly you will have to find your way back to your abilities to read intent. Have you ever wondered how people like Cesar the Dog Whisperer have such a clean connection to the dogs he encounters? People like that have no ‘interference’ in their accessibility to their communication from intent. Not only are they 100% phased, they are also 100% spiritually connected to their intent. Of course these people have an extraordinarily gift, and not everyone will be able to reach such a high level of connection. However, anything in between good phase and Cesar is hugely effective communication and will bring out excellence in all you do.

The way back to remembering your connection to your abilities goes via deconstructing; Deconstruction of structures of mind that hold life’s coping mechanisms created by an overload of intellectual teaching. Ever since science became the new religion humanity has been overloaded with intellectual learning. Whilst the mind may have understood and structured this information, the body and spirit may have not. Now there is a break in the connection.
Hey, I hear you; of course it is useful to know how to drive a car. Speak another language. Yes, of course, wonderful skills, and skills you are probably in real acceptance with, and therefore have a less damaged connection with. But what about the significant moments of importance in life, in other words, teachings structured into your system that have no (more) purpose?
Oh, about purpose, existence is having a purpose. So why do we carry unnecessary structures with us? They are just there, no more apparent function. No need to exist?
Time to weed the garden?
Time to reset your computer system, virus check, defragment? Guess what? It may just make it easier to access information that is stored into the very foundation of humanity and, you.

Quantum physics teaches us that structures come into existence via measurement of movement or location. Our whole universe is structured like that, including our structures, and our structures of mind. In other words, your structures that hold (un)necessary information are also based on this universal principle. So a structure is what has been measured in location (space/time) or movement (gestures). Both have 3 dimensions. Hey, don’t we live in a three dimensional universe?
Remember, 3 is a magic number, for time; past – present – future. For space; upside down - inside out - and back to front. It cannot be that simple, surely? No, it isn’t. But just in case, remember next time a sales person, or politician repeats his or her argument 3 times OK? It kind of locks it into you system if you are not aware.

Our universe and our mind are more complex. I mean, what else is in that structure? At first we established 3 dimensions or layers of reality. So what else? What about the unexplained phenomena you experience sometimes? You know, when that person calls you were just thinking about. Or when you for no apparent reason all of a sudden turn around and look straight into a passing car - connecting to a person inside? Maybe you have experienced visions or things moving, doors opening or closing for no explainable reason? Where does that world come from that we see and experience when we read a book? Mathematics talks about a phenomenon that is called complex numbers. Now, without going into to much depth it basically explains that every radio wave (all is built from radio waves of energy) has a complex counterpart travelling at a right angle to the 3-dimensional radio wave. So every dimension has a ‘counter dimension’.
Every measurement whether in movement or location has then a structure of 6 layers. By knowing that structure and how that interlinks with the overall structure of mind it becomes possible to navigate, or re-measure a previously made structure of mind, memory or coping form.
By re-measuring, the ‘old’ structure gets deconstructed and rebuilt instantaneously. One can now deconstruct all the ‘interference’ – unnecessary structures at will and own choice by applying a system based form of coaching that uses gentle and safe methods to navigate the structure of mind. This will allow people to choose to be able to speak, drive a car. And allow people to get rid of what they themselves deem unnecessary. The beauty of this system orientated coaching is that it is maximised experientially. In other words it is the coachee that does everything. The coach simply navigates, not drive.

The coachee ends up with a spring cleaned mind. From whatever the coachee has allowed to be ‘cleaned up’ a new level of connectivity is formed with the mind, body and spirit. A level of connectivity last experienced in very early childhood when the baby or young child has not been conditioned to their surroundings too much. What you end up with is a mother tongue ability to learn. No interference, distortion to misread the new experiences.
Ah, now, this is where you come back in. Imagine being able to learn with mother tongue learning ability. Imagine the effectiveness of that? Imagine how what you already know will excel to its maximum? Have you been aware of my three repetitions of ‘Imagine’? Yes, get it?

System orientated forms of coaching are the heart of coaching. It is the centre and the sun of the new way of learning. It is creating Cesar’s…oh dear, more reality TV next!

---
Editor’s Note: Bartholomeus Nicolaas Engelbertus Kalshoven is a systems coach and teaches experienced life coaches the application and experience of system orientated coaching. He can be contacted via contact@holigral.com

For further information on system orientated coaching visit; www.holigral.com