Tip: If you've ever felt crushed by a man withdrawing his love and going off into the sunset without you, then you know how hard it is to believe that something better may be around the next corner...

But there really is a plan for your life and loves, and it's not all up to you. So even if you do everything "perfectly" odds are that somewhere along the way you're going to be rejected.

And that rejection, as well as all of your good news, can be seen in the stars.

The world of dating and mate selection requires some serious guts and stamina. If it were a perfect world, you'd go out and meet the man of your dreams exactly when you feel ready for him.

You'd do that "across a crowded room" thing - instantly you'd love him, he'd love you, and your inspiring love story would unfold effortlessly.

Butterflies and white doves would follow your every step. Rainbows would magically appear overhead whenever you'd meet.

And you'd both feel loved for exactly who you are.

Ah....

But what's it REALLY like?

You go out into life and you meet some nice men, and I'm guessing some not-so-nice men. With some you feel chemistry (at first, this only seems to be with the latter group)... With some you feel repulsed... And with the rest you don't feel much of
anything.

Ultimately along the way some of the guys you want don't want you. Some of the guys that want you give you the creeps. And some of the guys you think you want seem like they want you, only to change their minds just as soon as they realize you want them...

In other words, the world of dating and mate selection is full of rejection. But you're not the only one getting rejected, you're doing your share of REJECTING as well! The GOAL is that this stops - that you find the man you don't want to reject, who won't want to give you up, either. Ever.

But that typically takes a lot of time and energy. I'm sure you've noticed. Even if you don't date, there's rejection everywhere, all day long. Think about it - you see a cute guy at the grocery store and smile at him. And he doesn't smile back... You hope your handsome coworker will ask you to work on that big project with him. He asks someone else. You're just sure your mailman has a crush on you, and then one day you spot him flirting with your neighbor.

It's everywhere!

Here's the thing - when it comes to love, I've come to believe in two philosophies(because I see them in action all the time!):

1. Rejection is God's protection (and, no, I didn't come up with this beautiful saying - I wish I had!)
2. There's no such thing as rejection, only the wrong match.

Most women come to see me because of rejection. Either they're getting no attention from anyone, so they're single and starting to panic that they'll die alone...Or they're in a relationship with someone who isn't giving them as much of, or the KIND of attention they want. (So they're feeling rejected within a relationship. Which, let me assure you, is worse than having no relationship at all...)

For the first group of women, (let's call them the "where is he?" crowd) almost ALWAYS they're not yet in their "season of love."

Until you're in your celestial "season of love" - a rare, special time in your life in which the conditions are ripe for true love to come along, no relationship with any man (no matter how much you love him or he loves you!) will "stick."

Every man you meet, no matter how wonderful and no matter how seemingly "perfect" for you, will end up rejecting you for one reason or another. Or you'll end up rejecting him! Something will get in the way of your love.

For the second group of clients that come to see me (the ones feeling rejected from within a relationship - let's call them the "how do I turn this frog into a prince?" crowd), it's usually a whole different story.

Typically there's one of two problems going on:
1. He's essentially four-feet tall and she's expecting him to play professional basketball. (In other words, he'll never be a good boyfriend or husband to ANY WOMAN 'cause he doesn't have what it takes!).

2. Their compatibility is such that they'll never want the same things or feel enough of a WOW connection for either of them to be truly happy together.

In both cases, if the relationship ultimately ends it's a GOOD THING. A very good thing. Why? Because it was never going to work, anyway.

For a relationship to work, I mean really work - where you do feel like you have butterflies and rainbows following you around - it's critical that the man be able to be a good partner. And that you and he have that "special something" that allows the love between you to grow and flow.

So, if a man rejects you, remember the good news: He's set you free to find your right relationship.The one in which no one rejects anyone! Which is why that term, "Rejection is God's protection" came to be.

Because when the WRONG man is removed from your life, sparing you the endless heartache,disappointment, and exhaustion that being in the wrong relationship creates, it's as though angels are watching over you.

So rejoice and remember - when a man who will never be what you need or will never make you feel truly loved kicks you to the curb, it's a happy, happy day! Can a get a hallelujah?

And, I assure you, when you find the right man and right relationship, you'll know it. And you'll be nothing but grateful that all the other men you've ever known have moved far away, or your parents made you break up, or he fell for the charms of Bambi... You'll be so grateful, in fact, that you'll want to send Bambi flowers for stealing your man.

Because, by getting him out of the way, your real man can arrive. So every time you reject someone or someone rejects you, just tell yourself what I always say: You're one bozo closer to THE ONE!

And your season of love is at hand...