Recently I came across the most nauseating advice column write in.  I wanted to share it to get some feedback on what both men and women think of the situation.

"I have a son who is just over a year old.  My husband is not his father, but he does not know this.

I had an affair, and the man knows the child is his, but he is happy to pretend he's not the father.  My husband and I were seperated at the time, and he believes our son is the product of our "last hurrah."  We reconciled for the sake of the child.  I'm not in love with him, but he's a great father.

I also work with the biological father's mother.  She knows my son is her grandchild.

I don't know how much longer I can live this lie.  I'm just afraid that by telling the truth I will cost my son a father.  His biological father would not take any responsibility for the boy, and I don't want to force him to.  Do I keep up with this lie or come clean." 

I'm not sure what sort of answer this writer was looking for from the advice columnist?  The jist was to come clean and let the husband decide.  I can't believe what a selfish, cruel and foolish person the writer is.  There is no justifiable reasoning not to be honest with such a situation.  I cannot imagine I'm alone with my feelings.  I''d like to hear both perspectives of both men and women.