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Oops Part2 Your boss left his wife for the other boss..
How do you deal when your boss calls you to her office to tell you that both she and 'Ed Norton' (same guy from 'Oops you have a crush on the boss' story) are leaving their marriages with kids to be with eachother?? Wow that's a toughie. Do you sit there and take all the info in, act suave, and pretend to give two shits? Sure, if you want to keep your job.
Or do you all of the sudden realize that you have the upper hand here, on your double cheating president (big boss)? Not only was he so called cheating on his wife, but he was also cheating on his mistress..with you. Oh yeah pretty juicy right? The only thing that REALLY sucks about this, is that you actually like your boss (the woman). Do you tell her that she is making a mistake, guys that cheat on their wives, and on their mistresses are 95% likely to do the same to you, or do you sit back and watch the trainwreck burn in flames? Hey now, I am not a negative nancy. There are chances that this thing between them could actually work out. Slim chance, but still a glimmer of hope. Dang, what do you do?
To be the evil bitch? or not to be... that is the question
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Eventhough in my story I referred to the pres as cheating on everyone with me, I didn't mean it in the standard 'we had sexual relations' or anything like that. It was a sort of emotional cheating. Being real flirtatious with me, and then all of the sudden being hit with this bomb. When I think about this situation I realize I'm lucky to have my loving boyfriend in my life... but then I think.. hmm, could this happen to me? When do you all of the sudden stop loving your spouse? But honestly, what I learned about myself, is that I am greatful for what I have in my life, and I don't want to jeapordize any of that. I may have thought harmless flirting was ok, but it's not. I also learned that I need to keep work at work. There's a reason why a lot of companies have that fraternization rule. I'm going to be leaving my work at work. I don't have time to worry about other peoples' issues. I need to take care of my own.
Thanks for your responses!
This one is scary! I would distance myself from the situation as quickly as possible! Amanda is right - no one seems to know what trust is in this case!
Hi Zoe,
Although this may seem like psycho-babble, I suggest that you explore seriously the deeper meaning of this situation for YOU. What are you learning (have you learned) from this situation AND, more importantly, how are YOU going to grow and develop as a result of it? What choices, including your choice of attitude, are you going to make from now on? Here are some words that may be helpful: "Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and our power to choose our response. In our response lies lies our growth and our happiness." So, while we can not "control" the response of others, we DO have control over our own response, no matter how difficult it may appear to be. Good luck!
Alex Pattakos, Ph.D.
Author of Prisoners of Our Thoughts
Center for Meaning
223 N. Guadalupe St., #243
Santa Fe, NM 87501 USA
505.988.5235
alex@prisonersofourthoughts.com
Oh my boyfriend is trustworthy.
I'd keep my mouth shut and start documenting. Watch the train wreck from a distance, but whatever you do, do not get involved. No more sex or even harmless flirtation with your boss. No one in this scenario seems trustworthy.
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