I can remember a time with my husband, before the kids were born, before our jobs demanded so much of our time, before life took over. We were best friends. There was also a time when I almost lost that friendship but luckily I realized early enough that things needed to change.

It wasn't long after our son was born that life became really crazy. As a new mom, I had no idea what I was doing. I was struggling and so was my husband. As a new dad, not having carried the baby for nine months, the birth and everything that followed was a shock to him. Our son needed so much, his daily routine alone was a like a full-time job that needed our full-time attention. We were trying to keep our heads above just to meet his every need. In this chaos, not much attention could be given elsewhere, namely our marriage.

I could feel our relationship dwindling. The conversations got short or became just about the baby. We rarely had time to feed ourselves and definately had no energy for sex. It was like we were living in the same house, living the same lives but having nothing in common.

One day, by the grace of god, we found a moment to connect. Exhausted from the previous months and feeling vulnerable, we through it all out on the table. We were loosing each other. The mere expression brought us to tears and we realized things needed to change.

And so they did. We decided to make one another our number one priority. Now this may seem selfish as if we were going to neglect our child in some way, but just the opposite happened. By establishing each other as priority once again, our partnership grew stronger. We became a team that joined forces to get the job done. In the end our sons care was well taken care of and our bond seemed to carry over to our relationship with him. We began looking at each other just as we had before the baby. Our sexual relationship got even better. Our marriage became a partnership of best friends with the addition of one little miracle and we both felt blessed.

Having a baby doesn't mean your partnership has to take a back seat.
A partner should always ride right by your side.