Living in Survival Mode-How do you not take things personally?
I seriously need to know. I grew up just outside the city in a row home in Philly and got into my first fist fight in 7th grade. Well, what do you expect? I am from a town where we idolize a fictitious character named Rocky, eat red meat and pasta like ravaging animals and have THE most hard-core sports fans you can image. Living is based on survival and he who yells the loudest…wins. It’s all very sane in the most insane kind of way.
Now I am not an ignorant person. I travel often. I have lived in different cities. I have various groups of friends from all walks of life. I am educated. Sure, I have grown from each of these experiences, but at the very core there is still that little girl ready to throw down no matter what the cost. Anger issues? Sure, I’ve got ‘em. Rage? Been there done that. Insecure? Sure, why not add that to list. Now, I’m not all brut. Actually, I believe that most people reading this are probably gasping in shock since they have never seen this person.
So why bring this up? Because I find myself in situations where I take things personally and when I do, I hate it. I think it has to do with living in a survival mode for so long, but diagnosis aside, I wonder, how do you NOT take things personal? How do you not let your buttons get pushed?
1) Stick to the facts
2) Realize its not about you
3) Detach yourself from the situation
My feelings to that? Great. Fine. Whatever. (yes, in that particular order).
Men seem to be able to detach much better then women. Why is that?
If we build relationships with one another and then that other person degrades what I am doing, how can I 'stick to the facts'? And how is that ‘not about me’ and how am I supposed to ‘detach myself’ from my own situation?
We all got issues; even the most calm-mannered, pleasant people have buttons that get pushed from time to time. (talk about bizzarro situations!)
So, I need some help here… and I don’t want to hear too much counseling-type stuff, I wanna hear what YOU have to say...really, in real-world everyday experience terms.
What are your buttons?
How do you let go and not take things personally?
Can you ever live totally free from care?
Is it really so bad to take things personally from time to time? Isn't that part of being human?