This question, from Amanda, may be something you're encountering, too. In my coaching and therapy practice, my 20 and 30-something clients frequently find themselves bored by the sameness of the bar scene, but aren't sure how to create a vibrant social life without it. My suggestion is that you should do the things you love doing -- for yourself and your own personal growth -- and companionship will follow. Whether your passion is playing volleyball, dancing the tango, or learning French, there's a world of other people out there who love it, too. And if you don't have a passion or special interest, then by all means develop one!

A former client of mine -- a woman I'll call Sarah -- met her future husband when they were both bidding on an antique item at a charity auction. Another client met her match at a tennis clinic run by her city's Parks and Recreation Department. And I met my own husband while going up the steps to an event sponsored by a local synagogue to which neither of us belonged. In all three cases, couples met while in the process of pursuing activities that interested them personally -- in other words, they were doing things they loved doing, and finding a partner to love became the icing on the cake!