They seem silly now, but so very important back then. I grew up in Essex; my husband grew up on a sheep farm in rural Lancaster Co. My family all have academic/medical backgrounds; my husband's family doesn't value education, although my husband has a medical degree- I guess it makes him "the black sheep!" Hi father was overhead saying during the night of our rehearsal dinner that he didn't think I was "good enough" for his son (I've long since forgiven him- he is who he is). When my husband and I met, he was carrying a copy of "Crime and Punishment" by Dostoevsky and I was dressed for the gym. I assumed he was into classic literature and he assumed I was a sports enthusiast. As it turns out, he was returning the book to the library for his roommate and I'd joined the gym to meet eligible men! It's what we have in common that matters most, family, hard work, working through problems and acceptance and forgiveness.

And they're not going away, but getting worse. I've tried to communicate my fears and concerns to my fiancee, but she becomes angry and things become even worse. I wish we only had a difference in family backgrounds. Are differences are in temperament and values, which have become more obvious as time passes. Maybe it's a sign that instead of reassuring me that she screams at me and accuses me of trying to ruin her "big day." When I try to explain that this goes beyond our wedding day, that's it's about the rest of our lives, she storms out of our apartment and doesn't speak to me for days. I'm thinking I've got to break this off. Thank you for sharing an example of how doubt and fears are managed in a positive, not negative way.