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How to Throw the Best Damn Pity Party Ever
You’re feeling like crap, truly down in the dumps. No happy music, no positive affirmations, no silly sitcom can shake the crap blues away. So what’s left to do?
THROW YOURSELF THE BEST DAMN PITY PARTY EVER!! Yep, you read right. Uh-huh, get ready to throw that party.
Things you will need:
- Sad music, the real tear jerking kind.
- Your favorite comfort food; this is NOT the time to count the calories. OK!?
- Black streamers and balloons; no party is complete without good decorations to set the mood.
- A box of Kleenex; it’s cool to blubber, but not cool to wipe snot on your sleeve.
- A pad of paper and pen; for writing down all funky feelings, negative thoughts, letters to people who have wronged you.
- Party etiquette (THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT); 1) There is NO giving up on you no matter how crappy you feel, 2) Feel your crap, sit in it, but no slinging it at others directly (That means no name calling, no pot shots, etc.) and 3) When the party is over, it is over.
No, I truly have not lost my mind by suggesting that you throw a pity party. Folks, I’ll let you in on a little secret, for a majority of my life I have been the Queen of Stuff. Over the last several months I have worked on slowly (but surly) shedding the title, the tiara, and the little silk sash that came with that title. However, in order to do so, I have had to release and let go of the negative feelings, the hurt, and the blame (ALL OF IT!) in order to make room for the good stuff.
So once you have felt the feelings, cried a good cry, written your scathing letters and burned (or shredded) them, and gotten it all out; get up, dust yourself off, and be ready to bring in the good stuff. Regardless of how it might feel at the time, the good stuff is really right around the corner just waiting to be invited in.
So whatcha think? The next time you can’t shake the blues, will you give yourself a good pity party?
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Oh, Pam you had me rolling, I love your style and even more then that, you are so dead on!
Pity Parties are awesome. I think if we just gave our self the opportunity to just feel shitty instead of trying to make sense, put a smile on and act civil, we'd probably be alot happier.
I am a big fan of the pity party. A good way to kick it off is with a tear-jerker movie, get the tears rolling and then just let 'em fly!
This is so important around the holidays too when everyone is so freakin' Merry..
happy holidays.
beth
Hey Beth,
Many thanks! I appreciate your comments -- glad you were rolling!
I could not agree more -- pity parties are awesome and there is nothing wrong with a good pity party. Especially around the holidays. As a matter of fact, I threw one two weeks ago and damn, if I didn't feel better. Now I am ready to focus on the cool stuff that awaits!
Happy Holidays to you too!
P
I like the pity-party suggestion. What were you going through that had you throwing one two weeks ago, Pam? Did you invite others? What music did you play?
As an extremist, I'd be concerned that if I threw myself a pity party, it would be a long time before I was able to crawl out of the pit I dug for myself. I've been working on maintaining more balance, but I can't tip the scales either way just yet.
If someone is the type to wallow in pity and negativity already, then diving into a pity-party might be too much for them. If another person has a habit of skipping over their feelings, then your suggestion is quite appropriate.
Thanks.
You forgot to make sure to have a pity pot.
By the way, for a humourous, dark site, check out www.despair.com.
Jillian
Oh shoot -- I forgot the pity pot. Thanks for the reminder, Jillian!!
Amanda, I was having a case of the holiday "ba humbugs" so I gave myself a little party. Just me, myself and I. No music this time. Just lots of kleenex. :)
You make a great point and I can understand that if one is already delving into the negative stuff, a pity party may not be the best answer. A person has to do what is going to help and not hinder...so if someone is really at rock bottom, reaching out is often the best course of action.
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