Relationships are so complicated. We all want to be happy in our relationships and know we need to work at them to keep them strong. But what exactly does it mean to “work” at them? It’s easy to get overwhelmed and do nothing, and very often we wind up stuck in a rug. As complicated as relationships are, simple actions can help to get you and your spouse "unstuck". There are five simple actions that you can use to help move your relationship forward whenever you are feeling stuck. These five skills will not "fix" a broken relationship or make a relationship "perfect". They will however get you out of those ruts.

1. Set specific and reachable relationship goals..Better communication is not specific. Having a discussion night once a week is.
2. Monitor your progress. Keep a notebook that documents what you and your significant other are doing to improve your relationship.
3. Arrange your environment for success. Take simple actions that increase the chances of reaching your goals. Maybe setting a date night or freeing up time in your schedule to have lunch together.
4. Recruit support. If you are not getting the support your partner, it's OK to ask for it.
5. Treat yourself. Make your relationship work fun. Set rewards for yourself if you achieve your goals.