We learn to set boundaries to protect two different parts of Self. Boundaries for our Outside Self, which protect our body and control distance and touch and boundaries for our Inside Self, which act as filters to protect our thinking, feeling and behavior.

Boundaries that protect our Outside Self can be violated by such actions as:
Touching or standing too close without permission
Intruding on a person's privacy

Boundaries that protect our Inside Self can be violated by such actions as:
Yelling, name calling, lying, and sarcasm
Negative control
Unrealistic expectations
Demanding one's own way or point of view

Educate people in your life about your boundaries. Calmly and respectfully inform them about how they can and cannot behave around you.

Be a person who knows that you have a right to control distance, touching and other physical contact with people, and they have the same right with you. You have a right to control your response to what others say, do, or expect of you, and they have the same right.

Setting and maintaining your own boundaries and honoring the boundaries of others are skills that can be learned. It takes mindfulness, intention and practice. Be patient with yourself as you learn and practice these important and valuable skills.

Only You can make it happen!