Pushing the elevator button with my elbow, I precariously balanced several bags of groceries in my arms while fishing for my keys. A man who saw me struggling asked politely if he could be of assistance. “No thank you, I’ve got it,” I started to say. But just then one of my paper bags started to rip. “Actually, I think I could use a little help!” I laughed. He carried two bags for me to my front door, and the entire way we had a lively conversation about how we all need a helping hand but are often afraid to ask for it or too shy to accept it when it’s offered.

Why is it so hard for us to ask for or accept help, even when we know we need it? Some people think that asking for help is a sign of failure or weakness. Others feel embarrassed about needing things from people, while some think they are imposing on others. And still some people think that they should just tough things out and go it alone. No matter what the reason is, the reality is that we can’t do it all on our own. And even if we could, why would we? We need partners, teammates, and allies to help us achieve the things we want in life.

There is no way I could be doing what I am right now without the support of many, many people along the way—my husband Bob, my students, colleagues, co-voyagers, friends, and even acquaintances. They have held a vision for me beyond what I could see for myself, offered great ideas, held me accountable, supported and encouraged me, celebrated my victories with me, and offered me solace in my defeats.

Readers who have emailed me after reading articles and my books have all been sources of assistance and inspiration as well! They (and possibly some of you) may not realize it, but the emails sent and the stories shared have inspired me and keep me excited about where my journey will take me. And I’m continually surprised to discover that the bigger my life becomes, the more support I need. And the more support I get, the more fun I have, because I have the opportunity to connect with so many people who are doing such interesting and cool things with their lives!

I've heard two such stories of inspiration from students who found that reaching out for support can have a tremendously positive impact on their lives. One man part of the Wright Leadership Institute's Singles program used his Singles lab to find the courage to go for and marry the woman of his dreams. Another woman who is part of the Wright Leadership Institute's Women's Program mobilized her community into support teams as she faced a major health crisis: cancer.

It really does take a village to turn our hopes and dreams into realities. We all need—and deserve—support, from the smallest daily tasks to our largest dreams. Use these tips to help you uncover the world of support available to you.

Blessings,

Judith