A new friend suggested I take a look inside for the "content" to share with everyone. I hope these insights are helpful... They were for me.. Some thoughts on why it is that what I say isn’t always what I do…. So here I am the clinical psychologist, professor at the university, and local radio and TV “advice” guy- and yet at least three (maybe more like 5) times a week, my wife has to remind me to “stop dishing it out and practice what you preach Dr. Josh”. Now, the fact that my wife is a clinical psychologist and the most perceptive and intuitive person I know doesn’t help my situation. . So why do I say one thing and act differently? Because making change, living the right way takes effort, and frankly there are many times when I would rather engage in my old ways and pay the short term consequences than actually make change. And here’s where the rationalizations come in. We say it’s not our fault, that we can’t help it, that it was the forces outside of our control (or it was our genetics or the way our mothers raised us). We kid ourselves that there is an answer or solution right around the corner to all of our problems. The instant weight loss pill, the exercise regimen that requires no exercise, the get rich quick, turn your life around, have what you want tomorrow fantasy. We all do it because if we can just hold off for one more day the solution will be there. For me it’s the myth that “I’ll try harder tomorrow” or “there must be a more efficient way to do this”. All of this is in large part my way of saying “I don’t think I can do this”, “I am afraid of what it will take emotionally and physically to act differently”. If I could take pill that had no side effects but that turned me into a more caring, dedicated, successful, and wealthier person I would do it in an instant. But there is no such pill. If I could visualize myself, will myself to who I want to be I would do it in a second. But I can’t and neither can any of us. . Yes, this contradicts so much of what is fed to us. But let’s stop for just a moment and think. Changing your life takes action. Inspiration, dreams, hopes don’t require action. I can dream about being a more patient, less stressed, more successful person for the rest of my life- to be that person I need to take action Maybe if I stopped focusing so much on “trying harder tomorrow” and as my wife says “just do it today Josh”, I’d move toward my hopes and dreams and goals. Maybe if I was more honest that my contemplation, and search for more effort was really a way of not taking action, I’d reach my goals a heck of a lot more quickly. In then end, no matter what I dream, it’s about what I do or don’t do every single day. In the end my actions, not my inspirations will allow be to be the person I’m inspired to be. How do I know this? Because my wife tells me every day….