Men and Women: The Real Problem and It's Not What You Think
There's an ever rising population of aggro men in this country and women have no one to blame but themselves. Men are hurt, angry and confused- even if they're unaware- and with good reason.
"Men aren't good at expressing emotions." "Men only talk about sports." "Men need to be more sensitive." We've all heard these platitudes and they're grade-A bullshit.
1) Men have emotions. However, most of them express and handle them differently than women and there's nothing wrong with that. When I hear, "men need to be more sensitive," my translation is, "men need to be more like women." Bad idea.
As a collective group, women have told men that makes them inadequate and they should feel bad about it. If women want to be with men who can talk about their feelings like their best girlfriend, then why don’t they just get together with their girlfriend?
2) Most women don't want men to cry. They don't want them to be unfeeling robots, but they want them to be men. Strong. Reliable.
Men are better at taking action and mechanical things. Women are more comfortable in the realm of verbal expression. It's not bad or good; it's just different.
However, society doesn't tell women, "Hey, instead of blathering about your feelings/problems all day, why don't you get off your ass and do something about them." I don't walk around saying, "I don't know how to fix a car," like I'm an abnormal defective. Try to accept and embrace the differences. Why swim upstream?
3) The world would not necessarily be a better place if women were in charge. Anyone that attended all-girls' schools knows what I'm talking about. Most women are just as vicious as your average guy. However, they're usually more subtle about it. At least with most men, you see them coming at you first.
Thirty years ago, something very interesting happened to the field of Psychology; it became "feminized." Women began to enter the field in droves in the late 1970s. Today, women greatly outnumber male mental health professionals, and let’s face it, the men who enter the field may as well have a uterus, that's how sensitive they are.
The mid to late 1980s is when the “men need to be more sensitive/get in touch with their feelings” movement began. This is the same time that women mental health “experts” began to surface in pop culture and let's not forget OPRAH.
The feminized culture has taken a once proud creature like a stalwart bull mastiff, and turned it into an angry, confused Pekingese. It’s sad. I used to man bash with the best of them in my 20s until I realized what's going on.
Here's what I learned: It's a lot easier to appreciate and desire men in all their glories and faults, then to try to make them become "like us." It makes relationships easier. It makes work easier. It makes it easier to forgive. Let's face it, ladies, we're no picnic either.
In fact, here's where I sympathize with men. If I had to date women, I'd end up smothering most of them with a pillow in their sleep.