Sex Starved Husbands: It's midnight, do you know where YOUR Eliot is?
What's a guy to do when his wife is just not into sex?
host: Dr. Mark, I have read somewhere that a man thinks about sex as
often as a woman thinks about her children or how she looks. What do
you make of that?
Dr. Mark: I didn't know women thought about their children or how she looks that often.
more of the facts behind the Eliot Spitzer scandal come to the fore, it
may be clear that once again grandiose, narcissistic men come to
believe that they live by different rules than others. It may also be
clear that men who possess a great drive to succeed not infrequently
have that drive cross over into a sex drive that doesn't seem to be
satisfied within a mundane typical marriage.
On the other hand, even non narcissistic men are not immune to discovering that sex is a great way to relieve tension.
in fact did not ask that sex for sex sake would be such a great tension
reliever. It just is. (And as women are becoming more competitive and
aggressive in the world, they are not far behind in discovering it).
But if a guy is married to a woman who demands and deserves to be
treated with respect who would not take too kindly to serving as a
vehicle for purely carnal sexual relief, and is someone he respects, he
can sometimes have problems covering up his desire to sometimes just
use her (and in his mind not very respectfully) for a release rather
than to make love.
So… if a man has a large uncontrollable sex
drive, feels it is the only way to relieve tension and he has a wife
who either has less of a sex drive, would be turned off to having sex
the "imaginative" way he would like to and talking about the problem
only makes it worse (as he can come off as whining, complaining or
sullen and not much of a turn on), what should that man do?
a) hire a prostitute and be sleazy
b) have an affair and be a cheat
c) service himself by masturbating to pornography downstairs in the den and feel pathetic
suggest going to a marital/couples therapist (which is too embarrassing
for most couples, especially if the man is going to bring up his
"uncontrollable" sex drive)
e) sublimate his drive to buying and washing a sports car
f) put a rubber sheet on his bed and hope it all gets worked out in his dreams
g) other -------
What's your opinion?
Read about frustrated women in "Forget Eliot Spitzer, what what his wife thinking?"
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