How a Guy Chooses between Two Women
Guys are interesting specimens when forced to decide between two women. Our basic instinct of "I want it all" can reek havoc with our sense of right and wrong (if we have one) thanks to our innate desire to conquer the world one woman at a time.
How we make our choice between two (or more) women when given the opportunity to be with both, depends upon a myriad of factors. The process begins with the type of guy is pushing the decision button.
Is he a mama's boy who needs constant attention? Did he have a psycho ex-girlfriend that stalked him for a few years? Maybe have a girl fake a pregnancy just to keep him around? All are viable questions with what make us think the way we do.
I'm sure the ever popular "he's a dog" principle is coming to mind as well, and yes, this one is also inherently true. I've personally known guys to keep 5 or more women at the ready, just so a Saturday night roll in the hay was a guaranteed event. Rest assured, I'm not avoiding the subject. Just trying to move to more underlying rationals of why men choose a particular woman other than the size of her rack or the J-Lo bootie comparisons.
So what are the logical progressions of thought in this process? The order might be off somewhat, but this is basically how it goes:
Which one am I attracted to the most?
Typical response, nothing new here. Does he prefer blondes over brunettes? Does he have a thing for girls who remind him of his mother? Oedipus complexes were not one of Freud's half baked ideas in between daily cocaine and tea times.
Which one will be the best choice for me?
Again, typical response. Does he trust one woman more than the other? Is one lower maintenance than the other? How well do we gel as a couple?
What are her morals and/or ethics like?
If you got your heart trampled on like a doormat in the last go round, its likely you will not choose the girl with the mischievous smile. Unless she falls into the nice rack category, but then again, you're not really choosing to be with a girl. Just having your way with her for the interim soul searching session.
How intelligent is she?
What does she do for a living? Did she get a college degree? Some men are easily intimidated by powerful women, while others, might consider it a turn on
What type of family does she have?
Guys really look at this one if she is commitment material. No guy wants a whack job for a mother-in-law or an overly protective father-in-law fearful of losing his little girl.
How well does she fit into his lifestyle?
If there are consistent conflicts because he is always gone on business, or has a flirtacious nature about him with other women, how does this affect their quality time together? Jealousy or territorial behaviors are often quick deal breakers for a guy seeking a relationship.
Does she fit the role of a wife, and many times, the role of a mother for his future children?
This is probably the most difficult question of them all. At least for those who like to plan ahead for the future. More often than not, this conversation is held over beers or other social events with his friends. Guys in their mid 20s to mid 30s are most often to do this because we have had several girls in our past we can either pull out from the little black book, or those confronted by two suitable candidates for his bride to be.
To be honest, I'm sure there are many more ideas that I've excluded. These are but a few circulating through the mind of a low 30s average guy (i.e. me) who went through a similar situation some time ago. I found that my reasoning was based off of our ability to interact well together no matter the circumstances, and the woman that would provide the best possible future for she and I, and any other rug rats that might come along.