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How to Tell if She's a Gold Digger! Hide your Wallets, Guys!
The dreaded Gold Digger! Nothing can alert a man's danger radar faster than those words. Well, maybe aside from "I'M PREGNANT" or "DOES THIS LOOK LIKE A RASH TO YOU?", but for now, lets focus on the much feared coochie traps.
Gold diggers employ the deadliest of arts and the most cunning of wits! Dealing with this subset of the feminine species requires 10 times more finesse and mental dexterity than any type of device that goes BOOM and should therefore be treated like a loaded gun! Of course, they're hoping your "gun is loaded" and they definitely plan to exploit their sexuality to your disadvantage since all men love things dressed in shiny, easily removed wrappers!
So the big question is... How do we deal with this threat?
Just like any enemy representing a clear and present danger, you must first identify the threat and subsequently neutralize it's capacity to inflict significant damage. Even better, if you play your cards right, you might get yourself laid and have her asking "How the Hell did that happen?"
The Easy and Obvious
For all the comedy this group provides, they do pose a medium grade threat. Generally, they are the type who prefer to wear Prada, but for the life of them, couldn't tell you how to spell it. They're not ashamed to flaunt their high profile status and alert you up front that you "have to pay to play" aside from the fact that her favorite phrase goes something like "my coochie is always dressed in Gucci!"
Play your normal game, keep her at a distance while giving her a few teasers of your wallet potential. One or two dates, and the deal can be sealed. Dismissed!
The Hard to Get
Oh my favorite! Getting some payback for your fellow man, that just days before, was harshly cast aside by this devious vixen is certainly a welcome challenge. Revenge may not bring redemption, but it certainly feels pretty sweet! Start making your plans over tequila shots while making fun of your friend who just got duped by little Miss Hard to Get.
The main give-aways are the cold shoulder and lack of attention she gives you until she knows you have some serious bank. Once this key distinction is identified, you know what she's after, so use it to your advantage. Toss her a few crumbs or, if you really want her as a mark on your six shooter, give in and spring for something she's after. Deal is done!
The Sleeper
This is the one you need to worry about. They are the type that easily slip under even the most professional dating man's radar. Do not, I repeat, DO NOT, underestimate this foe because she has the IQ and tenacity to clean out your clock (among other things) faster than donuts next door to a Jenny Craig center.
Warning signs are subtle at first, especially for the old school traditional men. I'm from the southeastern US where chivalry standards are much higher than average, therefore, the danger is amplified. Tradition implies we pay for dinner, bring flowers, and open doors, which is perfectly fine because a few guys still enjoy this aspect of the dating game.
However, when she begins to push the dinner check over to you without offering to pay or routinely asks you for cash because the ATM is conveniently "out of her way" to work, it might be time to wake up and smell the roses. Watch out for the shifts in behavior from the first month of dating to the later months. Once you identify the trend, start making your escape routes as quickly as possible.
However, if you actually fell in love with The Sleeper, or any of the other gold digger types mentioned here, more power to you! Just make sure you have the bank account to satisfy her shopping sprees and she is hot enough to inspire envy in every other gold digger in the room!
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At heart, they're all pretty despicable. . . What's the difference between a prostitute and a gold digger? The digger has a clientèle of one. . . I've never understood how otherwise smart men can't see through their bs. Are men really that stupid or do they just not care depending upon how hot she is? . . . Just wondering. . . TJP
lack of options. All women don't understand how hard it is to be a man these days. No we are not stupid. We just want to be appreciated. Most women takeoff when the shit hits the fan anyway so a man has the right to be selfish especially if he earned the right.
I know one who just broke my dads heart- never trust a woman who asks you to pay for 3 plastic surgeries and dumps you after you've paid 800 to pay to get her cat cremated!
classic gold digger
well all they care about is them.........maybe when u know the type....just use them as they use you......
Gold diggers are misguided women who can't provided the "finer things" for themselves...quick to say I like the finer things but don't pocess anything better than your stuff. Easily wowed by the things they see on tv. The self made celebrity who crap doesn't stink. they are lazy when it comes to giving thier heart to you and malipulative. They hold finances first over love and ties money to the equation of quantity/quality of love. Will leave a 95% man to goto the 5% man IF THE MONEY SOUNDS RIGHT. The best way you know your girl is a gold digger is to be yourself and hold strong on your values...wait them out most are not patient, call them out if they step out of line by attacking your character, belongings, or job. They will get frustrated and show you all thier cards in desperation. Above all Never ever show your whole hand(moneywise)
where can i buy the green costume?
I'm glad the comments show an understanding between a gold digger and a girl with a taste for the finer things in life. My friends always joke around about me being a gold digger because I love designer clothes. I'm proud to say that I just work really hard for my pay check and pamper myself. I don't need to leech off of some guy. Gold diggers just need to go out there and get a job! It'd be better for them and the men that they're involved with.
My ex is dating one of those. Whenever they have an argument she goes back to her old boyfriend. They were about to get married last year but when his lawyer brother talked him into getting a pre-nup she called off the wedding. They're still together, however. I suppose she'll stick around as long as he's picking up the tab. Did I mention this is her fifth "engagement".
My take is that women like that are lazy,selfish,and two-faced.Fellas,if you want to be free of the lies and deceit stay clear of these women.I know because I am speaking from experience.They are usually jobless,or the jobs they do have is not enough for them so they"juice"us men as a side job.For example,one who I dismissed tried to worm her way back into my life.For a minute,I thought maybe I'll give her another shot.She had me running around with her buying stuff for her.I end by saying that by the time the night was over,I had spent half a thousand dollars!!She hasn't changed one bit.The father of her newborn son is 50 years old.Why doesnt he buy the baby clothes or is he also unemployed.This girl really needs to get her act together.
anonymous
Honestly, I don't know how many guys reading this blog really needed these advices (especially with such financial difficulties in the economy these days), but I guess it could be beneficial to find whether a woman loves you for who you are or what you own. Actually, this is pretty well written and thought through... I think maybe you had an experience with this??? =)
I had one, she was pissed off at boyfriend so she left. I went out with her for two months. She lied all the time. Looked at every guy like they were dishes on a menu. Got me into fights with strangers, ruined my friendships, spent my money, and left when I lost my job. She broke me, and the thing that bothered me the most was I let her do it.
Word from the wise never listen to their empty talk. Just enjoy a date or two. Never marry one, they will not stand by you because they don't care about you. They are very good at pretending but in the end they are the lowest form of human garbage at the bottom of the New Jersey scum swamp.
I fell in love with a Russian Gold Digger!!!!Im not rich nor stupid.
The 1st 3 months she was just perfect, ticks in every box and yes, very sexy & pretty!In this period I fell for her.I smelt a rat though as she had been married b4 and had divorced the dude shortly after they(HE!)bought a house & had her new residency firmly in her hands-you get the drift.
After 3 mths her true colors came out - constant lies,sneaky, manipulative,texting other dudes and always went on about how "hard"things were for her.She even used the sick mum back in Russia to hint for some cash.She constantly tried 2 make me feel bad by using "A man in love would help me"-and by help she meant $$$$$s!
She'd also say"U say u lov me but I dont feel it"-by this she meant I wasnt paying for bills etc.
She was always flirting and encouraging other guys to take an interest and then when I became annoyed said it was my fault because "she felt she couldnt RELY on me"(cos i wasnt stupid enought to fork out my $$ always).This is a long story but the thing that saved me was this-
"I will only be with someone who wants me for me,not what I can give them or for what they can get from me".Its simple but says it all.
The other question to ask yourself is, "If I lost my job and money...would she stick around and stand by me???"
PS.Dont EVER EVER EVER date a Russian!!!
i had a similar experience as the last post....met a girl on a reputable dating website...turned out to be the most outrageous golddigger ever-ON STEROIDS!-RUSSIANS ARE THE WORST! offenders as golddiggers-RUN-THE RUSSIANS ARE COMING!!!!!!
Does anybody know of any books/dating guides that give insight into a gold-digger's game?
Written specifically for a male audience?
I think it's best to learn from experience, which is what I did. Once you make some mistakes, you'll be doubly cautious the next time you date a woman like that. Yes, men are indeed stupid when it comes to beautiful women as someone rightly said - the world revolves around beautiful women. If you have the time and money, sure, go for them, have some fun; but that's about it.
I dealt with various interpreters for immigrants new to this country. I was shocked to hear a couple women talking about how so-and-so needed to find an American man to take care of her. They went on and on and I could not believe they could take advantage of American men like this, but yes it seems like foreign women often come to this country looking for an American man to take care of them. I have a neighbor who has done this twice. She takes care of herself and looks good, but actually is a bit on the evil side. So guys, looks aren't EVERYTHING! I also have a dear friend who is in his late 50's and dating a bimbo in her late 30's. Boy, does she know how to play him. I wish he'd open his eyes, but he just loves having the attentino. If he shut off the cash, she'd surely be gone. Be careful guys! I'm 45 married for 24 years, but wish men would be open to the sweet quieter women instead of those women who are expert flirts (ie BIMBOS and SLUTS!)
Here is another story to warn you guys. She had a Mexican passport and found me on a dating site. Didn't speak English only German and Russian. I speak German. We met hooked up and got married upon her insistence or there would be no more sex. So we did. She could not come to the U.S. so I put her up in Mexico and bought her a boutique and she was wonderful until she got her Green Card after 24 months. She had cleaned me out in the meantime and as I could not give her any more money she said she would find another husband who would give her money and filed for divorce. I filed for annulment but the judge decided I must pay her $800 in support as she claimed she was penny less plus her attorney fees.
I have only my SS payments and a part time job and she gets all my money. American justice has been served to the Russians!!
How do I get out of this?? Any ideas?
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[Jamie Foxx]
She take my money, well I'm in need
Yeah she's a triflin' friend indeed
Oh she's a gold digger way over time
That digs on me
[Chorus:]
(She steal me money)
Now I ain't sayin' she a gold digger (When I'm in need)
But she ain't messin' wit no broke Niggaz (She steal me money)
Now I ain't sayin' she a gold digger (When I'm in need)
But she ain't messin' wit no broke Niggaz(I gotta leave)
Get down girl, go 'head get down (I gotta leave)
Get down girl, go 'head get down (I gotta leave)
Get down girl, go 'head get down (I gotta leave)
Get down girl, go 'head
[Verse 1:]
[Jamie Foxx's lyrics repeated across verse]
Cutie da bomb
Met her at a beauty salon
With a baby Louis Vuitton
Under her under arm
She said I can tell you rock
I can tell by ya charm
Far as girls you got a flock
I can tell by ya charm and ya arm
but I'm lookin' for the one
have you seen her?
My psychic told me she gonna have a ass like Serena
Trina, Jennifer Lopez, four kids
An' I gotta take all they bad ass to show-biz
Okay get ya kids but then they got they friends
I pulled up in the Benz, they all got up in
We all went to din and then I had to pay
If you fuckin' with this girl then you betta' be paid
You know why
Take too much to touch her
From what I heard she got a baby by Busta
My best friend say she used to fuck with Usher
I don't care what none of y'all say I still love her
[Chorus:]
(she steal me money)
Now I ain't sayin' she a gold digger (When I'm in need)
But she ain't messin' wit no broke niggas (she steal me money)
Now I ain't sayin' she a gold digger (When I'm in need)
But she ain't messin' wit no broke niggas (I gotta leave)
Get down girl, go 'head get down (I gotta leave)
Get down girl, go 'head get down (I gotta leave)
Get down girl, go 'head get down (I gotta leave)
Get down girl, go 'head
[Verse 2:]
[Jamie Foxx's lyrics repeated across verse]
18 years, 18 years
She got one of yo' kids, got you for 18 years
I know somebody payin' child support for one of his kids
His baby momma's car crib is bigger than his
You will see him on TV, any given Sunday
Win the Superbowl and drive off in a Hyundai
She was supposed to buy ya shorty Tyco with ya money
She went to the doctor got lipo with ya money
She walkin' around lookin' like Michael with ya money
Shoulda' got that insured, GEICO for ya moneeey(your money)
If you ain't no punk holla' we want pre-nup
WE WANT PRE-NUP!, yeah
It's something that you need to have
'Cause when she leave yo' ass she gon' leave with half
18 years, 18 years
And on her 18th birthday, he found out it wasn't his?
[Chorus:]
(she steal me money)
Now I ain't sayin' she a gold digger (When I'm in need)
But she ain't messin' wit no broke niggas (she steal me money)
Now I ain't sayin' she a gold digger (When I'm in need)
but she ain't messin' wit no broke niggas (I gotta leave)
Get down girl, go 'head get down (I gotta leave)
Get down girl, go 'head get down (I gotta leave)
Get down girl, go 'head get down (I gotta leave)
Get down girl, go 'head
Now I ain't sayin' you a gold digger, you got needs
You want a dude to smoke, but he can't buy weed
You go out to eat, can't pay, y'all can't leave
There's dishes in the back, he gotta roll up his sleeves
But while y'all washin', watch him
He gon' make it to a Benz out of that Datsun
He got that ambition, baby look in his eyes
(Jamie Foxx comes in)
This week he's moppin' floors, next week it's the fries
So, stick by his side
I know these dude's ballin, and yeah that's nice
And they gon' keep callin' and tryin'
But you stay right, girl
But when you get on, he leave yo' ass for a white girl
Get down girl, go 'head get down
Get down girl, go 'head get down
Get down girl, go 'head get down
Get down girl, go 'head
(She take my money)
Let me hear that back
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