This post has some really good information. It reminds me of those online "what ice cream flavor are you" or "are you depressed" quizzes on the internet, except that those quizzes are so deeply flawed while this is not. This blog really does a good job at pointing out the key ingredients to a healthy relationship and how they manifest themselves into everyday action. Anyone who is questioning their decision to be romantically involved with someone should check out this blog.

Great post! Me too have difficulties in handling relationships especially when I am still building the relationship. This post would really be of great help to me. It really helps me as one of my basis in my every decision-making towards a relationship. Thanks a lot for this. Great job!

The post shows me my real situation with my partner. There are things that we very opposite. But we agree on how we should remain our relationship despite of our differences. This post lets me realize many things that I know will help me cope up with my partner.

tough but good questions to ask.

Yikes, this is dead on! And still rings true of a terrible relationship I was in years ago. I think we always KNOW whether or not we should stay, regardless of how hard we fight against it. These are tough realities to acknowledge. But spending years of your life with someone and regretting it is a lot tougher.

Great entry. Especially for people who are ready to be honest and find out if their relationship has what it needs, or if they're staying out of an obligation. And that's where this article is weak. What do you do if you like and respect your partner, and wish the best for them, but feel trapped? Is there an answer for someone who is somewhere in the middle?

I love your post they are great questions to think about how you and your relationship are with your loved one. Because sometimes people thik there in a great realtionship but they dont talk or anything. These are great questions if you really wan tto hve a honest realtionship and stick with it.

Great entry.. Yes she is right these are the questions one have to ask about relationship himself...

Very good questions that will lead to thoughtful answers if taken seriously. I would be interested in knowing what questions you would pose in a non-romantic relationship aka friendships. I have recently begun looking closely at some of my friendships and am starting to see some as toxic. How would you suggest "testing" these?

I really like these questions. I guess that some of them really just make you think a bit about your relationship. It is everything that I think about without putting it into words. Now if we can just get our partner to awnser the questions truthfully!

Very exceptional truthful questions one must ask themselves in a current relationship. I think that these are the ones that most people avoid in order to not face the fact that they are in a situation that is all honesty, not where they truly want to be. But are afraid of being single again and back on the prowl.

Very insightful questions. I think if you pass all five of these tests, you can make it in the relationship despite other problems.

I really appreciate this post because it helps us to examine everything in life. Not just romantic relationships but other relationships as well.

I think thos are some very good questions to ask yourself. Some may be hard to anwer or one may not like the answers. However life is short and there is no reason to stay in an unhappy relationship.

Good stuff. By testing my current relationship, it helped me see that we are in a good spot. I especially liked the part about feeling content with your partner. That is an excellent way to describe the comfortable feeling I have with my current partner, which was missing in past relationships. I really like the way this article was written.

These are simplistic but extremely revealing questions. I think the key element in this post is the last point, which says, "Ask yourself, if you could terminate the relationship without any inconvenience - financial or otherwise - would you?" This is definitely a question where you have to be totally honest with yourself. And as Coach Girl says, are you BRAVE enough to do it??? I think so many of us COULD leave our relationships and might even be brave enough to do so -- but there is a certain comfort level in the "known" verses the "unknown," that we stay as a matter of convenience. In time, many of us grow into these relationships and we are "home" and reach that comfort level, but in others, we end up regretting not making the hard decisions. In that case, it's never too late.

I think about a lot of these questions all the time. Respect is a huge thing for me in a relationship and I have found with others it is not a big deal. I have had friends who seem to just see that their boyfriend or girlfriend is nice to them or is attractive, but my friends don't necessarily respect them. Either they don't respect their job or their opinions, etc. I've found it is much more important to me that my partner respect themselves. If they can not love themselves, I don't have enough love for the both of us.

You're right. In our busy world it's easy to forget to stop and ask the potentially tough questions. Thanks for the reminder.

These are important questions to ask in any relationship. Breaking up is always hard to do, and sometimes we come up with excuses not to do it - these questions are a great starting point to overcome the excuses.

Really good questions to ask yourself - they may be hard but people really need to ask themselves these questions to avoid getting hurt/hurt more.

The blog post made me to think about my relationship. I tried to answer those five questions honestly. Now I will try to rectify my mistakes and hope to build a stronger relationship with my partner. If every person understand this 5 philosophy and make a sincere effort to treat is partner with equal dignity, then there will a reduction in breakup cases in the court.I think this post sholud be read by both wife and husband.

Oh, yeah, these are the questions to ask yourself first. Why waste time with the ones we usually dither on about when these BIGGIES could put us on our path right away?

I wish I had these guidelines 10 years ago. I would've saved myself a lot of time, energy and heartache instead of spending 8 of those 10 years trying to repair a relationship that started out well, leveled out onto a stagnant plateau and eventually collapsed onto itself under the weight of unresolved issues and pent up resentment.

I will definitely take this advice before I pursue another relationship (which won't be for a while).

Like others here, I feel there are a couple of points missing. Those are of self-love and respect in addition to the issue of communication. A lack of communication will tank ANY kind of relationship quickly.

All in all, it's a great piece that hopefully will save people a lot of trouble (or at least provide guidance to those in a relationship).

i like this article a lot...i was recently in a relationship that was going nowhere but was staying in it just because i didn't want to be alone...now that i look at these 5 questions i realized ending the relationship was the healthier and smarter choice

This blog makes you answer questions you may not have wanted to. It asks you 5 major relationship questions but doesn't inform you how many yes answers you should have in order to run for the hills.

You have taken on the task of answering the questions that everyone thinks they know already and you have done a good job! My relationship will benefit from your words I can say that at least!

Before reading this blog I had never recognized the importance of respect in a relationship and the connection between respect, love, happiness and satisfaction. It is one thing to love someone and want the best for them, but sometimes their past can affect how you view that person and whether or not you truly respect them. These are great questions. Thanks.

Good points some leeway though. Like if it's long distance are you content to not have that change? I think not.

Although these do seem like common sense, it amazes me how often these problems come up. Life is too short to settle. Don't waste each others time if you know you could be happier.

This is really a great entry. I agree with the first four questions, the fifth question does not sound good to me. The complete satisfaction and respecting the partner are definitely essential in a relationship. When you think of your financial safety if there is a divorce in future, it is not going to build your relationship.

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Great points there on relationships. It is true that if you are really settled then you won't look or care for other relationships.You need to feel that he/she belongs to you and you to him/her.Respecting the partner is perhaps the most important thing in a healthy long lasting relationship.

nice post . sometime i fond this difficult but it is true. i agree with all the points . in my view respecting your partner is good for healthy relation.

these questions really made me think about somethings. i believe that things are meant to be only if they are meant to be. but the questions makes you think whats meant to be lol!

Im glad to see that these questions generate so much interest. If a person cannot answer these questions, and these are some important ones, how can they be sure they want to move forward? I think this is a great post and it opens eyes and minds.

I think this blog is worth reading. Although all the five points seem to be meaningful I feel the fifth point is not fully agreeable. If you think of financial safety while opting for a divorce it sounds rather selfish.The feeling that you have settled down completely is a valid and good point.

Good point about "liking your spouse." I love mine very much, but sometimes it is hard to "like" him. I guess that is something we have to work on.

Thank You! After reading this, I realized that I was struggling with a relationship for 3 years in which he did not have a job yet created most of the expenses. Thank you for helping me reconsider!

Your post really made me think. Of course I love my husband, but I'd never thought about how much I like him. After asking myself those questions, I really found a new appreciation for our relationship- thanks!

This is a great post, though more could be added. It's good to remember that no one person in this world can provide you with happiness. You have to find it yourself and have the right kind of thoughts to give direction.

Great advice, especially for someone who is unsure about their relationship. Thanks for the great post.

The question in number 5 is a really big one. A lot of people stay in a relationship because they are familiar with it. I have a friend who has been in a relationship for almost 17 years, but no longer loves her partner in a romantic way.

Wow...If I would have read this article a month ago before I went to visit my boyfriend in New York I wouldn't have a doubt in my mind that my relationship was A-OK but today I have to actually sit back and think. I think I will share this with my boyfriend and see what he thinks...after I bookmark it.

I wish I had seen this quiz a few years ago! Thanks for sharing.

These are some really great relationship questions... especially #5. A lot of times when I'm with a person I sometimes feel like leaving, but I can't because of financial reasons. Then I usually staying with them longer because of that reason.

The question if you meet this person on the street would you like them.. Yes,, but once you really get to know the person you find out about deal breakers.. bad credit, drugs, porn.. all deal breakers for me.. and yet I got in a relationship cause I liked him,, he was able to make me laugh.. which I needed after my husband died.. he made me feel good.. but the long term I knew he was not for me.. he promised to change, didn't really need porn or drugs.. Ha.. he hid it from me..
I felt like crap for not listening to my gut feeling and common sense.
Which led to weight gain. isolating myself from life in general.. ugh.. Why does it all get so confusing.. Why has it taken me so long to ask him to leave? God I need serious help..

I think this is an excellent post!!!! These questions are rational to ask ones' self in addition to their own!

Great questions to ask one self. I am in a relationship that I know will never have a future. A guy who has young kids and cant move from his current town. Me I have older kids and I job I really love not near him. I dont want to raise kids again. Its hard to call it quits because I do love him and dont want to give up a great friendship. I know though I want to be married again and his life is too complicated. I feel he shouldnt have a relationship at this point in his life for he has a full plate raising his three kids half the time. Life is complicated! We will be talking about our relationship in a couple of weeks and its hard for me to say we should break up.

Why are you looking at other relationships?
Cause I'm wondering why we have no pictures of the two of us together, and everyone else does.

Are you missing something is your relationship that you see in another one?
Not really. I convinced myself that they were the clingy weirdos, and we were the bohemian cool couple (still believe it - though acknowledge that a deeper connection was missing)

Do you really like and respect your partner?
Absolutely. Still do - even though we split up.

And what about "liking" your partner? Do you find him interesting, and when she talks, do you want to listen to her?
Yes - in a cute way.

In order to like and respect anyone, you have to ask yourself. "If I was not involved with this person, and met him on the street, would I like him?"
Of course I would. That's why I regret I didn't just lobby to be friends in the first place, instead of trying to take it further.

Do you want the same good things for your partner that you want for yourself?
To an extent - that didn't make it right, though.

Do you care as much for your partner's feelings as you do for you own?
Again - to an extent.

Do you feel this is where you "belong"?
I tried to convince myself I did. I got found out though...

Ask yourself, if you could terminate the relationship without any inconvenience - financial or otherwise - would you?

No - I only did cause I realised she wanted to get married, and I didn't see a future, and that was unfair.

We instinctively know that we will never again have the status quo once we terminate this relationship. Are you brave enough to leave?

Finally I had no choice. I felt like I was leading her on and that led me to feel a state of rampant and terrible deceit. My conscience couldn't take it any longer.

How's that for honesty?