Very creative resolutions! I like them!

There are more people in the world that focus on their problems than there are that look at the solutions and try to make a positive change. Thanks for these step by step ideas to change things in our lives that need work.

I love your ideas about gettingunstuck they are so absolutely true. I am going to give them a try and tel others about them. Maybe we can all change our lives and be better person.

BRAVO!!! I think this list is WONDERFUL! I once heard somewhere (TV News Radio) that the word "but" is a negative and using it in a sentence or though negates everything that came before it. I SO agree with this. I also agree that you can't let others decide or justify your own actions. If you want change, you have to change. It is that easy.

I really like how you mentioned about recognizing the patterns. I think that your article is helpful because you mentioned this. Patterns seem to be the key to changing the future. If you can break your current patterns you should be able to change for the better!

Wow... I have a lot to think about. Thanks!

This blog has some very useful suggestions for getting out of a rut. As the blog (and any 12 step program) mentions, if nothing changes, then nothing changes. It's not rational to do the same thing over and over and expect different results.

Although I liked the suggestions on how to get out of a rut, many people feel they have no where to go from that rut. They don’t know how to get there and saying “just think this way” is very tough to do. They’ve spent their whole life think this way and it doesn’t get fixed in a few weeks. It takes awhile to change how a person thinks.

Perhaps you can extrapolate more on how to get to the point where you can start thinking there is something better on the other side of the hill.

This was very well thought out, and you made some excellent points. I especially agree about the one that encourages you to recognize patterns in your relationships. Thank you for sharing!

I really enjoyed this blog! I can be so guilty of number one!!I also like the idea of recognizing patterns. I totally see that!

I can really see myself in this list. I have been feeling stuck with my work situation and am going to try these suggestions. I especially liked the parts about being bored with your story and to feel your feelings rather than talking about your feelings. I am going to print this out and put it on my fridge!

This is a great reminder. Although it's just another day on the calendar, January 1 does offer a new beginning. These are great reminders to take care of ourselves. Thanks.

Really great solutions and advice - thank you! I especially need to take #5 to heart.

I was especially stuck by #3...it seems like lots of life has "yes,buts.." and living so conditionally gives control elsewhere. And #5 is a good reminder to focus on the moment. We spend way too much time beating ourselves up for the past and worrying about the future!

God I love this girl! Good for all of us. Print these out and pay attention!

This is excellent advice. Most of us fall in to the trap of expecting different results from repeating the same actions, which someone said is the definition of insanity. The first step is realizing that you are the only one who is going to cause a change in your life, and put an end to the "yeah buts". It's a lot of responsibility to take on, but also a lot of empowerment. Thanks for the tips!

I think I will keep my resolutions to myself this year as well. I want to do them for me, and not for the idea that I'm just sticking to my word. I hope I can keep this up!

I appreciate you forwardness. So many people sugarcoat these topics when the right about them, but the truth is, you are the only person who can make a change. Answering questions with "Yes, but" really tells someone that you don't mean the "yes".

Thank you so much! I'm bookmarking this page and will try to really use it to help to make changes I need to make

Wonderful post!!.. I love your ideas about getting unstuck they are so absolutely true.I have been feeling stuck with my work situation and am going to try these suggestions. I especially liked the parts about being bored with your story and to feel your feelings rather than talking about your feelings.

Lots of good food for thought here, but sometimes it is all easier said than done. I think we all get into patterns of behavior which are often hard to change, and we all have to make conscious efforts to break the mold. The older we get, the more stubborn or set in our ways we become. Last year was so stressful for me that I didn't even think of what I wanted to change or accomplish this year, and I'm just starting to do that now. I'm going to review your points and try to take some of them to heart. This year, I need to put the focus back on ME, rather than everyone else in my life.

I like #2. It is easy to get in the habit of complaining if we have a willing ear. If we quit that, it will probably make our friends happier, too.

Great points in this article! Number 5 especially rings true for me. At some point, you have to let go of the past and start living for the now- thanks!

Great advice, I have been stuck in a bad job that I hate for nearly two years now and for the past year and a half I have been saying that I'm going to get out but I never do. Hopefully if I follow your advice I can really do it this year. Thanks.

"Regardless of what happened in the past, all we have is the present moment to make good choices." Such a great, responsible statement. We all may have the tendency to dwell on the past or worry about the future, whether it was yesterday, 10 years ago, tomorrow, or 3 months from now. Today, this moment, I need to do the right thing.

Awesome advice, its just the truth, you can't expect things to change if you don't make them. I can definitely benefit from trying these suggestions. I would like to get a better education and a better job. I'll just have to do it and try to not worry about what ifs.

That's really great advice. I often find myself saying #3... the "Yes, but" part. I hardly ever keep a New Year's Resolution, and this year I'm deadset on keeping it. Thanks for all of the helpful tips!