These are some good thoughts that should be talked about more often. To me it seems that that definition of virginity is kind of old fashionedm outdated and purposefully ignorant of the wide variety of sexual experiences that people have today. You are right that it is part mental and part physical!

Teens have so many questions about this when they begin to learn about their sexuality. I think virginity should have a personal meaning for each person, there is no catch-all definition that includes everyone. One person may consider one act as losing their virginity, and another may not. And guys definitely can be virgins.

These are some very good thoughts. I've always thought virginity was more of a mental thing than a physical thing. Well, partially physical yes, but it's more of a personal decision on what you think virginity is. not what someone tells you to think.

absolutely right in the mental aspects of virginity. it does raise the question as to how far can someone go sexually and still be considered a virgin... but that's getting in way too many blurry lines for my taste.

love this: "Sex is fun, but it's not a game."

right on.

I think there are two sides to virginity - the physical and the mental. There are particular physical acts that take virginity and their are emotional ties to the cultural idea of virginity as well.

I agree with you in everything! but i think that virginity should become every time more and more banal, until it gets to a point that the subject is no longer of importance, in this the church has a big hold, imagine if the pope, some day wakes up and declares virginity no longer important, what a happy day for open minded people it would be.

Bravo! Good talking on all the different aspects of virginity AND for picking up on the double standard between genders. I personally believe that virginity depends on your sexual orientation. If you are 100% gay or straight, then having sex with your first partner of the same or opposite sex is it. You are no longer a virgin. However, if, like me, you are bisexual, then you technically have two virginity issues. Your virginity can be lost twice in my eyes, once with each sex.

Personally, virginity is very important. How amazing would it be to save yourself for someone so special. I think alot of times people focus too much on technicalities and miss the main idea. Nowaday, like you said, it's so important too be extra careful in every decision you make about who you open yourself up to.

I agree with this blog 100%. I believe that virginity is more of a mental thing than a physical thing. Like stated in this blog, some people just don't have a choice. I think they have the right to claim themself as a virgin, until they meet the person it was actually meant for. To claim that virginity is so important these days aren't fair to the people who never had the choice in the first place.

I agree entirely that virginity is only partly physical but that most is mental. I can understand the that the medical profession needs a clear cut deffiniton. but like the blog says people should have a choice in claiming virginity in bad situations. I voted yes because the blog helps show the other side to what medical professionals and narrow minded people believe.

I agree that it is part physical and part mental. I was recently horrified to read that in some cultures young women are considered damages and unworthy if the hymen is broken. It can be broken without sex!

I really agree with this blog. I feel like that whole virgin/ non-virgin thing is just a label to separate people. If you want to know whether someone has had sex, maybe ask them that. If you want to know if they've done oral, ask that. It's just the same kind of thing that happens when people say "hooked up". Who knows what that means? It could mean they're not a virgin anymore...but wait, what does that mean? Ah, the cycle repeats itself.

Yeah, you're right. There's little point in labeling certain things these days; it leads to confusion and is really a matter of personal definition. It was probably a lot easier in the old days when there was only one Government Approved Sex Act (Missionary in Marriage).

This was an interesting post. For me, the question I kept asking is, what's the value of virginity? Why does it even matter? The only times I have ever heard any sort of value applied to virginity is in religion, and in that case it's usually dealing with female virginity because these ancient religions treated women as property, and who would opt for a used car when they could have a new one? I agree that virginity is mental as well as physical. It takes a lot longer for your brain to adjust to sexuality than your body, which means, the first couple of times, it's kind of awkward and unfulfilling. I challenge you to find someone who had a good experience their first time.