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Opening One Door, Closing Another
Most of us believe the saying, “When you close one door, open another” and that’s what most of us do. But what if you were to learn that opening another door too quickly may not be in your best interest and may actually work against you.
What do you do when one door closes and another one is not yet open?
1. Don’t panic. We all feel out of control when we don’t know what’s in store for us.
- We all feel afraid when we enter unknown territory; this is natural and happens to all of us. You need to bear the anxiety and stay the course no matter what. Once you know it is essential to head in a new direction, move forward acknowledging your fear as well as your desire to be something more.
2. Do not say, “Anything is better than nothing” and make a decision out of fear.
- Anything is NOT better than nothing. We are so afraid of the unknown, so devoid of trust, that we become immobilized. Is it okay to not have all the answers before we make a move? Can we not want something we have without knowing exactly what it is we do want?
3. Put in the right ingredients. If the ingredients are good, the outcome will be good.
- Putting in the right ingredients is the key to having a good life. The universe delivers in a way we cannot imagine and we do not want to mess with the outcome. Being too concerned with the result limits the possibilities and we end up sabotaging ourselves. Get out of the way and let the magic begin.
4. Sit quietly. Good choices come out of a quiet mind; when you can hear your own voice.
- Our inner voice only speaks when the mind is quiet. That voice comes from the heart and ALWAYS is in your best interest. Be open to possibilities you have not even considered.
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Number 2 is a great point. It's so easy to default to lowest common denominator thinking...thanks for the reminder...
Hi Erin - Thanks for the read and the comment..
If you liked what you read, perahps you will be interested in today's post on the front page of Blogs - The Space between the Old Way not Working and the New Way not yet found is where consciousness expands - Stay in the Gap! Have a great day, Chandra
I'm so bad at step #4. I tend to be too reactive. Thank you for your lovely post.
All the points are really good. You really have pointed what we forget during those odd times. Following these really helps.
I read this article and had to think for a moment whether I agreed whole heartedly with it. First of all, I think it really depends on the situation, whether it is good to act, or just wait. However, I do agree that most of us make matters worse by acting without thinking. I like the fact that this article gives us an alternative that we usually don't think much about... to do nothing, which can lead us into something better. So, yes, after much thought, I do agree with you
I agree with those who agreed with Number 2. We shouldn't just settle for whatever we can get. This goes hand in hand with number 1. Sometimes you simply panic and go for whatever you can get. Keep calm and know that you're worth better.
Great article in view of the recent unemployment in our household! I agree 100% with ~Do not say, “Anything is better than nothing” and make a decision out of fear. That is excellent advice and followed in our home.
I think it is a great idea to just quiet the mind also.
Many times I dwell on what "ingredients" will help me achieve a satisfactory outcome. Its important to remind myself not to catastrophize every situation, and allow the universe to take me where it may. Although difficult for my mind to accept at times, I tend to like the message conveyed in this post.
This is an awesome article. It's very concise and easy to follow, and it's great tips for someone like me to follow. I need to learn to accept situations and have faith that better will come.
I've always been the type of person to hate change, and I try my best not to open another door, if I don't have to. Especially if I don't know what the outcome of the situation may be. These are great tips in helping me overcome my own little fears. They're very helpful, and this blog is very informative. I need to learn to let go of the bad and accept the possibility that something better could be waiting out there for me. Wish me luck!
This is good advice for a generally impatient person such as myself. I'm always in a frenzy to find an open door when an other closes. Some times I even start looking for open doors before the other one closes. Fear is a great motivator, but it can easily lead me to make bad decisions in haste. I will definitely have to work hard at applying these principles.
This blog gives you a few valid tips on how to live in crisis. It is true that if a door is closed another door may open. However we need not just jump into whatever door we see open first. We can wait for the right opportunity and jump into it. That will bring more success and happiness in your life.
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